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Life Is a Thought Thing! Coach Arthur

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Words Have Power!

Words Have Power!

When you read this caption think of your children!

Are you happy with the manner in which you spoke to them today?

Forty-Days of a Peace Youth Symposium

peace-on-earth-islamOn Saturday, My Sorority (Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.) had the Honor of hosting the 40 days of Peace Youth Symposium. We had over 300 individuals attend and many of them were young people.

We had a panel of experts speak to the young people. We had a pastor/professor/major of a city in Miami,  a Chief of Police for a local community college, a community college professor, a mother who after her child was murdered started  RJT Foundation, Inc.
“Women Supporting Families of Murdered Children” (please check out her website: www.rjtfoundation.com), and a pastor.

I listened as intently as I could possibly listen under the stress of thinking that I myself had to go up on stage at the end and also speak. One thing that I heard said time and time again is what I want to share here. I am sharing it because I heard this message over and over again, last week in different venues so I know I MUST share.

The main idea I heard at this symposium for our young people was,that  our thoughts create our experiences. There was one young lady who  asked how can she who lives in the inner city, who is confronted with violence at every turn, how can she have peace? How can she not retaliate when that is the world she lives in? The answer was the same. Just because you are surrounded by violence, doesn’t mean you have to be part of the violence.

I read this in a blog last week, well, this is my interpretation:

thoughts + feelings = manifestation.

I will ask parents to try this exercise for the next 40 days and reply to this blog to tell me how it worked out for you.  Consider this a Life Coaching FREE session: Reflect upon an area in your parental life you will like to change (ie: screaming excessively). Decide to think differently about screaming. Feel the feeling you will have when you are no longer in need to scream at your children. What does you not screaming look like to you? How does it feel like? What do you hear?

I can’t wait to hear from each and everyone of you that read this blog.

By the way, I decided that for the next 40 days I will not loose my Peace when it comes to my children! I am not going to get upset when they are listening to POP That Pandora and sing it, I have no clue on what they are saying and  that drives me NUTS! This is day two, so far so good!

My GOD is different than Your GOD!

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What makes this world go around is the fact that GOD gave us ALL free will! You can read it in the Bible. The first chapter of the bible called Genesis explains exactly what GOD was thinking when He/She/It  made Our world.

I had a discussion with a friend yesterday who thought my idea of my GOD was border line blasphemy, however I stand by my idea of GODGOD Is a Good GODGOD is not a punishing GOD. I personally think that GOD would have been BETTER off if He/She/It would have just left us as He/She/It  intended. You see, GOD didn’t mean for us to have FREE Will at first. When I told my friend that I thought they were going to choke on their spit, but it is true. Adam and Eve were doing just find, until, well you know the story! The way Adam & Eve were living was GOD‘s original intention! Seriously, read Genesis and you will see!

The point is that now we do have FREE Will! We can do what we want, when we want, with whom we want and the like. Now, here is how my GOD differs from the GOD that others serve! My GOD is not busy trying to keep score on who does what to whom! That is why we have Karma! My GOD Is Every where present! My GOD knows Everything there is to know! My GOD is a forgiving GOD! You see GOD ONLY wants our BEST! GOD is our Parent! For those of you that are Parents, think of all the good you want for your children and times that desire times a Billion; that is what GOD wants for each one of Us.

Here is another shocker about My GOD! There is a piece of GOD in each one of us waiting for us to bring Him/Her/It  into expression! You decide whether you will allow GOD to shine through you. How? By your actions and reactions!

Another shocker! GOD (My GOD) is not a punishing GOD! My GOD is a GREAT GOD! My GOD does not keep score of your deeds. There is no such thing as Heaven and Hell as a place that you go to when you die. In My World, Heaven and Hell are RIGHT HERE! Now, I know some of you have already deleted this post from your lives, but here me out those of you that are still here. Heaven and Hell are right here! Heaven and Hell are states of mind that we decide we want to enjoy. Sure bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people, but I will assure you  that the GOD I serve is not making decisions on who gets what! GOD Is a GREAT GOD!

There are certain experiences we all have to go through in order to become the person we were Destined to become! It ALL depends upon how you look at the experiences that you are going through right now!

Example, I have been an Assistant Principal (AP) for 15 years now, most AP’s that went through the Principal Academy with me are now Principals. My choice, heaven or hell.

Hell – I could be bitter and become a horrible worker with no ethics because the power that are in place are over looking me.

Heaven (my choice) – my time will come, I will be a Principal, I will be an Exceptional Instructional Leader. “Everything happens for a reason & everything happens for my Highest good!  In GOD‘s time! GOD‘s knows BEST, remember GOD is ALL knowing. In the meantime, I do my BEST everyday, I am Grateful for my job, and I know, that I know that my time will come and when it does, I will be the BEST Principal Ever! That is Heaven!

The GOD I serve is more than likely different than your GOD! My GOD is not a punishing GOD and My GOD  is waiting for you to bring Him/Her/It into expression! Trust me, Your Life will be BETTER for it!

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Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Parents: This is how we create productive adults!

You can’t get something for nothing!

My youngest daughter (she is the Cat in NieCat) shared a story with me last week that shocked me. She showed me a teenage girl who was very upset with her parents. You see her parents had given her a car. Her issue? the car they gave her was not the car she wanted. Here is the shocker, her parents purchased a LEXUS for her, her gratitude statement towards her parents was:  “that is not even the car I wanted!” Well, I guess when Cat  shared this story with me, she knew what I was going to say. How did this teenager become so ungrateful? Your parents buy you a car, a LEXUS no less, and the first thing that comes out of your mouth are words of dissatisfaction!!!!!! How does that happen? She was not born being ungrateful, something in her up bringing empowered her to feel as she does.

Here is the lesson for today. When we give our children things without reason or without them earning them, it gives our children a sense of entitlement. That may be cute at first when they are babies and toddlers  but as they become teenagers, this will be a serious challenge that the parents are going to have to deal with!

Children MUST earn their keep, said a very wise man who raised 5 children in a Brooklyn apartment in Coney Island! This Great man (My Dad) made sure these children earned everything they had, and I do mean everything. To get allowance we had to do work around the house. I had to iron his shirts and we took turns doing everyone’s laundry downstairs in the laundromat.  When we received good grades  we got paid for them. We had a contract that specified exactly what our responsibilities were, our rewards as well as our consequences.  Earning an A got you the BIG $$$, earning a B was also a good thing, a C earned you about a dollar and there was no way you could have brought a D or an F to 11H (that was the apartment number). The 5 of us are now grown and we all have children of our own. Believe it or not, for some of us, our children have children of their own.

I don’t know about my siblings  but NieCat (my girls),  understand that if they want something out of me they have to earn it. You have to earn your keep! Even my GrandHon (11 months) is learning that if she wants me to pick her up, she has to crawl towards me. Why you ask? They are only children you say! Why do you have to be so tough? You mention. Well, let us please remember that in this world, you have to earn your keep. You can’t get something for nothing, well, you can but it will probably not turn out good at the end. I wanted my girls to understand that hard work pays off. No one is going to give them a hand out! They must work, and the first job they had was keeping their room clean, that didn’t work very well, but at least they understood that in order to have privileges their room had to pass inspection! Those were the good all days!

Parents, please consider not giving your children EVERYTHING they want. Set goals, and once they achieve those goals, then, they can be rewarded with things.

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Five Rules to Succeed as a Parent!

Five Rules to Succeed as a Parent

APPLY THESE RULES TO YOUR PARENTING ARSENAL