I could hardly believe my ears. I was standing in line at the CVS waiting to take my passport picture when I heard a man utter words that made me physically open my mouth wide. He was talking to a little girl who appeared to be a second to third grader (7 – 9 years old) .
It seemed he left her waiting in the line and for someone reason she got out of the line or allowed others to get in front of her. When he came back he gave her a tongue lashing that was hurtful. He was loud, he was mean, he was harsh, and he was condescending. The more he screamed insults, the smaller she physically became. I felt so bad for her. I wanted to tell him to stop, I wanted to tell her that he was hurting her and the pain was visible, but instead, I did what everyone else did. I stayed quite.
I get it! I am a Mom. Nie is 21 and Cat is 18. During those 22 years I have encountered a lot of challenging situations. I have been really upset, I have been disappointed, I have been heart broken, however, I have done my BEST not to break NieCat’s Spirit. You see, our words have an impact on our children.
The question are:
What type of impact do you want your words to have on your children?
Do you want to build them up?
Do you want to deem their life light?
As a parental coach, one of the main goals that I assist parents with is to think before they respond to an action or words their children say. Take a minute, feel the feeling your child generate within you, feel the words in your mind, but don’t verbalize them. Take a moment, then, speak!
Think before you speak!
Before you say anything in anger, ask yourself, how would you feel if someone else said those same words to you. How would you feel? How would you feel if your child’s teacher said those words to your child?
Think of your childhood! Then, behave accordingly!