Monthly Archives: December 2013

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The MOST important thought to remember for 2014

The MOST important thought to remember for 2014

Happy New Year!
Happy New You!

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach

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Posted on December 31, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, God, help, inspiration, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, motivation, Spiritual, support, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom

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You

You

I am so extremely Grateful for this post! It was sent to me by Brandye Dague. The objective was to do something uplifting for me. As I read it, I became empowered and I decided to share it with ALL my clients and readers. Please pay it forward and share these words with someone!

Let me tell you something about YOU.

YOU can do anything you want.

YOU are in control.

YOU can achieve as much success as you want to.

YOU can and will pick yourself up when life knocks you down.

I BELIEVE IN YOU.

That’s all I wanted to say,

You see, Your success, Your Prosperity, Your Health, Your Peace, it all starts with YOU.

YOU can make a difference!

Blessing You,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 28, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, help, inspiration, motivation, support, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom

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Change Is Good!!

Hang in there!

Many times my clients and I come up with GREAT plans to start a new. Plans that will allow them to leave the behaviors that were not wanted and adopt new behaviors.

The challenge?
Other people have a hard time realizing that people can change, that change is possible.

It is truly a challenge when someone changes, but the people around them, still treat them as if they are still in the past. Change is good and those who cannot deal with the fact that you are in the process of changing do not belong in your change/life process.

Celebrate your willingness to change,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 27, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, empowering, help, inspiration, motivation, support, Uncategorized

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“I Am a Healer!”

Adapted from Joel Osteen I Declare – 31 Promises to Speak Over Your Life – Day 16

As I am Blessed with the growth of my Life Coaching practice, I consider and approach my clients as a Healer.

I Declare that I will be a Healer to my clients. I will be sensitive to their needs. The objective of me writing their vision statements will be to lift them if they have fallen, restore them to their original whole, healthy and complete beings and to encourage them to see themselves as GOD sees them.

I will speak and listen to them with compassion and kind words. I will speak miracles into my clients’ life. I will become a miracle by showing my clients’ GOD’s LOVE & Mercy.

This is my Declaration to My Clients!

Grateful for Coachable Clients,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 25, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, help, inspiration, motivation, support, Uncategorized

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Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Posted on December 24, 2013 | Leave a comment

Children MUST have Responsibilities!

One day before CHRISTmas a lot of us are going crazy shopping and giving our children EVERYTHING they want.

How do I feel about this practice?
I feel parents my age from 40 to 55 tried too hard to please our children, including me. You see, we we wanted to give our children what we did not have, and what we have done is created a generation who feel they deserve everything they want. At first it was cute, but now that our children are becoming young adults we are seeing that perhaps this was not such a good idea.

Our children need responsibilities and they need discipline, and it is not too late. They MUST earn what they receive from us parents just as we earned everything we wanted and needed as we grew up in the 60’s 70’s and 80’s.

I have a lot of clients that do not like me saying this, but the reason why our young adults are the way they are is because of us. If your children are not 18 – 30, and you are having a hard time getting them out of your house, you are still supporting them after they finished college, if you are still giving them allowance, we have no one to blame but ourselves.
The beauty of it is that is not too late!
You can decide in 2014 to allow them to take responsibility for their own lives!
They have to be responsible for the actions and the consequences their actions create!
We MUST stop bailing them out!

Choosing differently,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted in Children, Coaching, help, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, Parenting, support, Teenagers, Truth

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If you want change, You MUST change

If you want change, You MUST change

In my Life Coaching practice I have experienced many parents coming to me asking to help with their teenagers and their attitudes. The first question I ask? How do you react when the attitude begins? The answers to this question are very informative!

As Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience, we tend to forget (the reason why we suffer) that we have Power & Dominion over our actions and reactions. I often have to write my clients vision statements reminding them of this very important point.
What does that mean?
That we have control on how we react to situations that are less than ideal with an attitude that can defuse the situation and make things BETTER.

When our teenagers give us attitude (not disrespect), the BEST way to handle it is pointing out the behavior to them, but most importantly, we MUST make sure that our attitude does not compare to theirs. The ONLY way we can teach our teenage children how to BEST handle their emotions, actions and reactions is by keeping our cool and having a handle on our words and deeds when we interact with them. We MUST become the change we want to see in our households!

Happy parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 23, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, empowering, Father, help, mother, motherhood, support, Uncategorized

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What are you saying?

What are you saying?

What are you saying to your children?
What type of words are you using when you are speaking to them?

My Dearest Father taught me many lessons in life. there are two very important lessons which helped me parent effectively. The first lesson he taught me was how to speak to my children. I lived with my Dad and my Step-Mother from the time I was 12 years old until the time I left to college at 18. In ALL those years living in Brooklyn, New York I NEVER, EVER heard my Dad say a bad word, NEVER! No matter how angry he was (I really don’t remember My Dad being angry to be honest with you), he never cursed, and he definitely never used bad words when speaking to my step-brother, step-sisters or myself never.

The second lesson I learned from my Dad is NEVER to speak negatively to my children’s dreams. No matter what I told him he never put the idea down and he never criticized the idea. He did have a lot of wisdom and shared the pros and the cons about my ideas, but ultimately I made the decisions.

When we speak to our children, there is no need to use bad words, there is no need to put our children down.

Be kind to your children, remember, The manner in which you are speaking to your children is teaching them a couple of things, they are learning from you how to treat others, how to speak to others, and how worthy they are but most importantly, they are learning from you how to be parents one day!

Happy Parenting,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 22, 2013 in Children, Coaching, Father, help, mother, motherhood, Teenagers, Uncategorized

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Our Children came from us but they are not us!

Our Children came from us but they are not us!

Don’t cut your child’s wings because of your dreams and aspirations. Your dreams are yours. Their dreams are theirs! As parents we are here to Guide, Cultivate & Support their dreams!

The Late Rev. Dr. Mary A. Tumpkin taught me many things during the 20 years that she was my Spiritual Teacher. One of the lessons that I received, and understood without much studying was: My two girls, Nie and Cat came from me but they are not mine. GOD sent them here for a reason; GOD put within them EVERYTHING they needed in order to fulfill their Destiny. GOD has a plan for them and I have no right to tell them who they should become.

I guided them into activities and they selected the activities which made their Hearts soar. Nie is an actress by birth. Is in her blood, and though a lot of people would disagree with their child following an acting career, my thought was, that is what makes her happy.

Cat is a speaker, a writer, a spinner. She might be a lawyer, she might be a writer, she might be a journalist, she might be an activist, she might even be a Politian. These are things I see in her, but never will I influence her (only guide) on who she will be in life.

Parents, it is not our job to divert our children’s dreams. Our job is to guide them, to show them their options, and ultimately, only our children can make that the decision.

Parenting with Wisdom,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 18, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, empowering, God, help, support, Teenagers, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom

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LOVE YourSelf

When you read the words in the sand, you consider it elementary. Of course You LOVE Yourself! Really? Do you really LOVE Yourself?

Look at your life, look at the choices you have made, if you were someone else, would you say you LOVE Yourself? Below are a series of questions, answer them HONESTLY, and you will get a general idea on how you feel about yourself:

When is the last time you went to the doctor for a check up?
When is the last time you did something nice for yourself?
When is the last time you put your feelings, needs, desires before someone else’s?
When was the last time you said YES to you?
When is the last time you exercised?
Do you smoke?
Do you drink excessively?
Are you doing something to your body that you know deep inside is not healthy?
Are you following your doctor’s orders?
Listen to your self-talk, what do you think about what you are saying to yourself.
How do you feel when someone give you a complement?
How do you react when someone want to do something nice to you?
Do you ever call yourself a name?
When is the last time you took a nap?

As we enter 2014, let us all choose to LOVE Ourselves!
Believe it or not, LOVING OurSelves will allow Us to LOVE others more!

On the way to Truly LOVING Myself,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Live Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 17, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, empowering, help, inspiration, motivation, support, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom

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I Am Betting on Me!

I Am Betting on Me!

Worrying is literally betting against yourself!

As I forge forward with my Life Coaching practice, my main objective is to have my clients believe in themselves, LOVE themselves and choose themselves. I understand, and live that at times this is a challenge, and I am always trying to find new ways of getting the point across that WE MUST Choose Ourselves First!

When the student is ready, the teacher will come! As I looked for ways to drive my point across, the Universe placed this GREAT sign in my way, Imagine that!

“WORRYING IS LITERALLY BETTING AGAINST YOURSELF!”

Just typing it makes me smile! 🙂

I want to bet on Me! I want to be a Winner, I want to be able to live my life knowing that at the end of the day, no matter what, I am going to win regardless. GOD made me in His Image and His likeness, what else is there for me to do than to win? I have no other choice! I get it! As I feel like this about myself, I can’t help but to transfer this feeling to my clients!
What A Blessing!!!!!!!

As we begin to prepare for Our BEST year yet, 2014, I think this is the PERFECT sign to think about, meditate upon and commit to memory as we begin to think of a new opportunity to begin again.

Bet on yourself!

Betting on me,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Posted on December 15, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, happy, help, inspiration, motivation, support, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom

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