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Ten Strategies to Raising Children

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As per the Center for parenting, there are ten key strategies to raising children. Below you can read and share this blog with others.

  1.  Children thrive BEST in a home filled with respect and LOVE. The respect must be a 2 way street. Parents must respect their children and children must do the same.
  2. It is important that parents listen to their children. Listen with a quite non-judgmental ear as your children share their feelings and thoughts.
  3. The main emphasis should be what is good and positive about your children.
  4. Allow your children to learn and do tasks for themselves.
  5. Be cognizant of what your children can accomplish based on their age, maturity and skill level. Celebrate their accomplishments!
  6. Be “consistent!” Do what you say you are going to do.
  7. Do not become physical, emotionally or mentally abusive.
  8. Admit when you make mistakes. Be aware of your mistakes and teach your children that mistakes have lessons within them to be learned.
  9. Behave how you expect your children to behave.
  10. Laughter is the BEST medicine. Make sure your home is filled with a sense of humor.

Need assistance becoming a BETTER parent? Email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

http://centerforparentingeducation.org/

Coach Arthur
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Our Children Deserve BETTER!

Our Children Deserve BETTER!

I was at Miami Children’s Hospital (I LOVE this hospital) at the Gastro’s office with my First-Born (Nie) and my GrandHon on Wednesday, and I saw something extremely interesting/sad to me.

The office was full of children and parents waiting very patiently. First I noticed that 85% of the children were entertained by some type of electronic device, secondly, I noticed that 10% of them were engrossed on what the Disney channel was showing, and 5% of them were going wild. Here is the interesting part, there was a blond lady on her computer, nothing wrong with that, I was on my iPad the entire THREE hours for the most part, however, she was engrossed in her computer and didn’t realize that her children were going totally crazy, I stared at her to see if I could get her attention and nothing happened. Whatever she was looking at was way more important than her two boys. Then, there was another lady who came in, signed in, and left her son in one part of the doctor’s office and went to sit at another part of the office. That was astonishing to me as the child could not have been more than 5 years old. These boy started wrestling with one of the blond boys and was hurting him. Another lady had to tell him to stop because the little boy was getting super rough! Mind you, neither one of the parents said anything, well one of them couldn’t even see what was happening anyway. I even said out loud, well, if she doesn’t say anything I guess it must be okay, and she still didn’t look up. Now to her defense I did say it in Spanish, maybe she didn’t speak Spanish who knows!

Once they called us in the room, Nie was chasing my GranHon all over the office and she comes back in the room to tell me how the blond lady is now in a room as well with her two boys and on the computer while one of her sons was walking on the ledge of the window!

Come on Parents! We MUST do BETTER than that!!!!!
Children should not have to sacrifice so that we can have the life we want! We have to commit ourselves to our children. Having children and raising them right is a FULL TIME JOB! Period!

If you want to do it right, you have to give up your time! That is truly the ONLY way!

Happy Parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach

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Common Sense is not Common

Common Sense is not Common

Common Sense is not Common!

Am sitting here in Nassau, Bahamas being extremely happy as I celebrate my B*Day weekend and enjoy the sound of the ocean waves from my hotel room (this was a BIG Dream for me). Here is the thing,
is 4:19 a.m. and I am up! Why? One thing, I am excited about going outside to walk in the beach when morning time comes (yes, at 48 I am still a kid at heart), and am also suffering from a very nasty allergy attack. Being grateful and surfing channels I came across The Steve Harvey Show. He shared three rules that I just must share. Needless to say, me being me, I had to put my own spin to Steve Harvey’s three common sense rules.

DREAM BIG
We are ALWAYS thinking, always! Let us put our thinking time for good use. Think BIG!
What do you want?
Just think it!
Just feel it!
Go into your mind file cabinet and remember everything that you ever wanted to do. Go way back, select the BIGGEST Dream that has ever crossed your mind and dust it off. If you believe in GOD (I highly recommend you do) pray for the wisdom to make your BIG Dream come into fruition. If your dream is in the forefront of your mind, cultivate it. Give yourself permission to succeed. Give your BIG Dream permission to be manifested in your life, world, and affairs. See it! Smile as you think about it! See yourself in your BIG Dream!

INCH BY INCH ANYTHING IS A ZINCH
Once you figure out what your dream is, do something about it. Start small, just one action a day. Think about your BIG dream. Do something about your dream on a daily basis. Think about the feeling you will have when you achieve your dream.
What will it feel like?
What will you hear?
What would you feel?
Little by little formulate your BIG Dream in your head, feeling the feeling of manifesting your dream and be grateful for your BIG Dream coming into fruition.

LIFE IS 10% WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU AND 90% WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT!
Even the BEST thinking person will have challenges in life. Everyone has challenges, is not the challenge, is the way we handle it. When you are in the process of seeing your BIG Dream in your mind’s eye and you begin doing something about it.
How are you going to react when the first obstacle appears?
What will you do when the 100’s obstacle appear?
example: You are in the grocery store and the line is really short, you are next and in a hurry.
What are your going to do?
What will you choose?
You can become exasperated, start complaining and become miserable in your mind, where ONLY you live OR you can use this time to think gratefully about your BIG Dream! You can use this time to pray, think happy thoughts, exercise your affirmations, review your vision statement mentally or send the cashier and customer thoughts of light and harmony.
What will you choose????

Coach Arthur
Life Coach

Life Is a Thought Thing! Coach Arthur

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Parents have more POWER than they realize!

Parents have more POWER than they realize!

In addition to being a Life Coach I am also a school administrator, I have worked in the education system for 24 years now. For the last 15 years I have worked, well, really played  (I LOVE My Job) as a school administrator and I have heard a lot, however, there are things that still make me shake my head!

Example:
Having a beautiful girl tell me that her dad tells her she is a drama queen as she cries to him and tells him her sister is harassing/bullying at home broke my heart this week!

My partner in crime and I had to go into damage control attempting to make this dad’s statement less lethal to his daughter as she cried her little eyes out in my office. My partner in crime in her infinite wisdom told her, hey, don’t worry about it, guys are dumb! They don’t know what they are talking about! She then turns and ask me, isn’t that right? Me being the silly adult that I am had to stop myself from cracking up. Believe it or not, this lighten up the mood, The little girl  laughed and for a minute the tears were gone, however, the hurt was real.

As a school administrator there are things I just can’t say to parents, though sometimes I tell them more than I should, I actually have life coaching sessions with some of my parents FREE of charge, however, some issues are just so out of reach.Why doesn’t a Dad know that dismissing his little girl’s feelings are causing her damage? Does he realize the POWER of his words? We are going to assume that he cares and he wants to do BETTER! We are going to assume that if he could do BETTER he would do BETTER!

Parents, your words are SUPER Powerful! None of us should use our words in a negative manner towards our children or any children for that matter.

Is that possible?
Yes, it is!
All you have to do is think before you speak! When you are angry, don’t say anything! And if by chance you do say something to your child that would dim their GOD Light, just apologize and let them know that you won’t do it again!’

Please try hard not to use negative words towards your children!

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Can you remember?

Can you remember?

Parents, can you remember what your mother told you when you were 6 years old? Do you remember that she told you that you could not do that! Perhaps your Dad told you that you were too little to play that game, or your sister kept calling you names. and the name calling hurt your feelings. Do you remember how it made you feel?

Now, you are an adult with children of your own. Remember those feelings when you want to tell your child that he/she can’t, or you want to call them a name or without thinking you say something that you can tell made them feel bad.

STOP!

Don’t do it!

Remember, they  won’t forget it!

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It is a cliche but it is true!

It is a cliche but it is true!

Parents, your children learn what they see you do, and what they hear you say to others, not what you tell them to do or to say!
When I have parent conferences I am often amazed how parents are shocked that their children lie! First, they tell me, my son/daughter NEVER lie!m After I reveal my investigation and my witnesses they come to the realization, that their child has lied. Often, they cry, don’t understand how it happened and sometimes, they just think I am the evil one and I have orchestrated this plot to get their child in trouble, because of course I don’t like their child and I have it in for them! This one happens more than I care to discuss.
Here is the thing parents, your children are looking at you very carefully!!! I just can stress this enough! They are watching you, they are listening to you, they are hanging on to your every ACTION. If you are lying to Auntie Ursula about why you didn’t call her, if you are lying to the bill collector about the payment being in the mail, if you are lying to the cashier that you don’t have enough money, if you are lying to the homeless person asking you for money on your way to the mall, guess what? Your baby girl/baby boy is internalizing ALL of that!
Stop lying in front of your children! Period!