Monthly Archives: February 2013

Those Who Can, Teach

Those Who Can, Teach.

I Declare

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As a Parent & Teen Life Coach, I Declare I am a people builder.

I will look for opportunities to

encourage others to bring out the

BEST in them and to help them

accomplish their dreams. I will

speak words of Faith and Victory, affirming

them, approving them, letting them

know they are valued. I will call

out their seeds of greatness, helping

them to rise higher and become all

that GOD created them to be.

This is My Declaration

Coach Arthur – CPC

I Declare 31 promises to Speak Over Your Life  By Joel Osteen  – Day 23

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Common Sense is not Common

Common Sense is not Common

Common Sense is not Common!

Am sitting here in Nassau, Bahamas being extremely happy as I celebrate my B*Day weekend and enjoy the sound of the ocean waves from my hotel room (this was a BIG Dream for me). Here is the thing,
is 4:19 a.m. and I am up! Why? One thing, I am excited about going outside to walk in the beach when morning time comes (yes, at 48 I am still a kid at heart), and am also suffering from a very nasty allergy attack. Being grateful and surfing channels I came across The Steve Harvey Show. He shared three rules that I just must share. Needless to say, me being me, I had to put my own spin to Steve Harvey’s three common sense rules.

DREAM BIG
We are ALWAYS thinking, always! Let us put our thinking time for good use. Think BIG!
What do you want?
Just think it!
Just feel it!
Go into your mind file cabinet and remember everything that you ever wanted to do. Go way back, select the BIGGEST Dream that has ever crossed your mind and dust it off. If you believe in GOD (I highly recommend you do) pray for the wisdom to make your BIG Dream come into fruition. If your dream is in the forefront of your mind, cultivate it. Give yourself permission to succeed. Give your BIG Dream permission to be manifested in your life, world, and affairs. See it! Smile as you think about it! See yourself in your BIG Dream!

INCH BY INCH ANYTHING IS A ZINCH
Once you figure out what your dream is, do something about it. Start small, just one action a day. Think about your BIG dream. Do something about your dream on a daily basis. Think about the feeling you will have when you achieve your dream.
What will it feel like?
What will you hear?
What would you feel?
Little by little formulate your BIG Dream in your head, feeling the feeling of manifesting your dream and be grateful for your BIG Dream coming into fruition.

LIFE IS 10% WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU AND 90% WHAT YOU DO ABOUT IT!
Even the BEST thinking person will have challenges in life. Everyone has challenges, is not the challenge, is the way we handle it. When you are in the process of seeing your BIG Dream in your mind’s eye and you begin doing something about it.
How are you going to react when the first obstacle appears?
What will you do when the 100’s obstacle appear?
example: You are in the grocery store and the line is really short, you are next and in a hurry.
What are your going to do?
What will you choose?
You can become exasperated, start complaining and become miserable in your mind, where ONLY you live OR you can use this time to think gratefully about your BIG Dream! You can use this time to pray, think happy thoughts, exercise your affirmations, review your vision statement mentally or send the cashier and customer thoughts of light and harmony.
What will you choose????

Coach Arthur
Life Coach

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The Four Agreements for Parents

The Four Agreements for Parents

The agreements you are about to read were taken from the book: “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

There are Four Agreements that parents should follow when it comes to parenting:
1. Be Impeccable with Your Word.
2. Don’t take anything personal.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions.
4. Always do Your Best.

Be Impeccable with Your word:
I have addressed this issue before in other posts. Children really learn and do what we do, seldom they learn what we say. Being impeccable with your word teaches children to do the same. As parents we must follow through on what we say to our children. If you plan to go some where don’t tell your children until you are 100% sure you can go. If you give your child a consequence you MUST follow the consequence through. That is what teaches your children you mean business. Being impeccable with your word is what teaches children to be impeccable with their word.

Don’t take anything personally:
As a school administrator I have to tell parents this one all the time. When your child does something wrong, something that perhaps brings embarrassment to your family name, please get over yourself. Yes, I get it! I have been there and done that. However, the truth of the matter is that because your child stole candy from the store does not mean that you are a thief, or that your child sees you stealing (ideally your child should NEVER see you doing anything illegal).
Here is an example: I have made my bed everyday for the last 23 years ( that’s how long I have been a Mom). NieCat are aware of my bed making passion. As they were growing up, I always told them to make up their beds. Now at 22 and 18 they NEVER make up their bed. At first I considered myself a failure for not teaching them correctly, however, now following the Four Agreements, I don’t take it personally. Our children are their on persons, they came here to learn their own individual lessons and sometimes those lessons are independent of us.

Don’t Make Assumptions:
You children consider you their Hero. Don’t assume that because you have to give them consequences/punishments they will not like you or think less of you. Don’t assume that because your neighbors children look nice from the outside that they don’t have issues. Stop assuming your parenting skills are not adequate. Stop assuming period! When you assume you make the assumption about you and you MUST remember agreement #1, don’t take things personally.

Always Do Your Best
You can only do what you can do. You are doing the BEST parenting possible with the tools that you have. You are right where you need to be. There is a Higher Forth in your life directing your steps and finally, if you need direction, if you need someone to encourage you, support you and help you to establish parenting goals seek someone like me (shameless plug), seek a Parenting Life Coach. Everyone needs help once in awhile is okay to ask for it.

Think about these Four Agreements as you do your parenting from moment to moment and you will be on your way to parenting success!

Happy Parenting,
Coach Arthur

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Gratefulness is the way to go!

Gratefulness is the way to go!

Parents, you would be surprised how powerful the sense of being grateful!

As the children are in the peak of your nerves, stop what you are doing for a second and think of how Grateful you are about an aspect of your life that has to do with your children. Example: I am Grateful that my children will be sleep soon! Lol
A grateful thought like that will even give you a good laugh!
No matter what you are going through, if you can just remember (the reason why we suffer is because we forget) to think a grateful thought life will be immediately BETTER! Try it, you will like it!

Coach Arthur

Life Is a Thought Thing! Coach Arthur

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Smile :)

Smile :)

Let us always meet each other with a smile,
for the smile is the beginning of love.
– Mother Teresa

Peace begins with a smile.
– Mother Teresa

If in our daily life we can smile,
if we can be peaceful and happy,
not only we, but everyone will profit from it.
This is the most basic kind of peace work.
– Thich Nhat Hanh

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word,
a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring,
all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
– Leo F. Buscaglia

Just smiling goes a long way toward making you feel better about life.
And when you feel better about life, your life is better.
– Art Linkletter

May the world be kind to you,
and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
– Jonathan Lockwood Huie

Jonathan Lockwood Huie
jlh @ sail7 .com
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