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You Are Your Child’s First and Best Role Model

You are your child First and BEST Roll Model

Children learn from their parents how to make good life choices. Children may not always have the capacity for self-reflection and the ability to think about long-term consequences, which often makes it difficult for them to make wise decisions on their own. Parents should be available during this process and provide them with a platform where they can ask questions and get answers when they need them most. Read on for some tips and suggestions from NieCat Life Coaching.

Diet and Exercise  

Nemours KidsHealth notes that the dinner table is where children learn the dietary habits that can last a lifetime. Making healthy food choices for yourself and for them while they are young instills not only a sense of what a proper diet is, but they’ll learn to enjoy those foods if they’re introduced to them at an early age. Make certain both you and they have access to fruits and vegetables for snacking and avoid keeping sodas and chips in the house. You can reserve those for special occasions like parties but keep the healthy stuff on the table then too, to provide a good balance. 

Exercising with your children can be fun for you both. Family bicycling is something everyone can look forward to. Wearing helmets is a must for everyone as well as reflective clothing if you’ll be cycling past sundown. Walking and hiking are other fun activities everyone can do together, especially if it’s punctuated with a picnic

At Home

Keeping your home clean and clutter-free works for you and them. The Pragmatic Parent points out that teaching your children to put things away when they’re done with them means your home, including their rooms, can stay neat and tidy. A home filled with clutter causes stress and bad energy in the home, which means a lot of whining and complaining. Giving kids chores teaches them responsibility and accountability and if they get paid for some of those duties, it’s an opportunity for them to learn about savings, spending wisely, and delayed gratification. 

Scheduling homework time, playtime, and chores is a chance for them to learn time management, too. Kids can get stressed and overwhelmed if they’re not guided throughout their day since it takes time and maturity to learn how to best manage their activities. A printed schedule that is color coded in a place they visit often, like the refrigerator, can be helpful as well as a clock or an alarm clock that they can read. 

Education, Including Getting an Online Degree

It’s never too early to talk with your children about what they want to achieve in the future. Having a goal, even if it’s one they’ll change often, instills in them the idea of putting the work in now~education~means having the dream job they long for later on. 

Family trips to the library help them learn to appreciate books and all the other services a library offers. Encourage them to check out books about famous people who have done or are doing the job they hope to one day make their career. 

If you’ve been putting off getting a degree, pursuing an online degree gives you the flexibility to pursue your dream while fulfilling other responsibilities. For example, a BSED opens the door for opportunities to work with preschoolers and elementary-aged children. With the ability to learn at your own pace, online coursework allows you to work toward your goals while still taking care of your work and life responsibilities. Best of all, by seeking higher education, your children will benefit from the example you set. 

We hope you’ll adopt a few if not all of the above tips to be the best role model for your kids including living a healthy lifestyle, having a productive and stress-free home, and furthering your education, whether that’s through traditional channels or the online route. Children need guidance, but they also need to be left with a lot of freedom to find out what works best for them. This can only happen when we let them make their own choices while guiding them at the same time. If you need additional guidance and one-on-one support, reach out to parent coach Coach Arthur of NieCat Life Coaching today!

Written by:

Amanda Hendersonamanda@safechildren.info

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Teaching Your Teenager Financial Management Basics

If your child is a teenager or young adult, they will be out on their own in no time, having to make everyday decisions that will potentially impact the rest of their life.

Whether we like it or not, finances play a significant role in our lives success and overall quality. If your child doesn’t learn how to manage their finances, they could end up struggling with unnecessary obstacles through adulthood and beyond.

As a parent, you can help them lay a solid foundation for a flourishing life — and here are some tips from NieCat Life Coaching to show you how.

Organizing a Budget   

No matter the age, every person should know how to create and stick to a budget. Morgan Stanley notes that it just so happens that young consumers are less likely to keep up with their spending than any other age category. And nothing is more critical than possessing basic budgeting skills when finances are tight, not to mention that having such skills can help a person maintain flexibility and freedom with their money — which is a lesson they’ll be glad they learned if they ever decide to run their own business. Not only can you teach your teen about budgeting in business, but lessons can be learned about starting a venture one can believe in, and never promising something you can’t deliver.

Teach your child to use all of the online tools at their disposal for budgeting. There are plenty of spreadsheets and personal accounting tools available that will allow them to create a monthly budget that factors in all of their income and expenses. And they can even learn how to leave room for saving and unexpected costs!

The Deal on Allowance

If you have a young teenager, consider giving them an allowance each week or month. This practice can teach them the value of saving money and expose them to tried-and-true saving strategies that will serve them well into adulthood. While you will want to monitor how they spend their money, give them a little bit of freedom and see how well they can learn to manage their spending themselves.

Introducing Investments    

Investing can do wonders for improving one’s financial standing. But there are many different types of investments to choose from, and you must learn to weigh risks and rewards and make intelligent decisions if you are going to make investing work in your favor. Now could be the perfect time to teach your child the value of investing money wisely. Introduce them to the various forms of financing, including retirement accounts, health savings accounts, exchange-traded funds, mutual funds, real estate, and more.

Real Estate and Understanding Mortgages

When it comes to real estate, take the time to teach your child about the various terminology related to mortgages, like what foreclosure means, and make sure they know how to distinguish between the different loan types (i.e., conventional, FHA, VA, etc.).. It’s also a good time to teach them what are current mortgage rates. Go online and show them the various loan periods and how that affects rates; for example, a conventional 30-year fixed rate mortgage stands at 5.124 percent, whereas a VA loan for the same period is 4.750 percent.

Interrogating Each Purchase   

It’s easy for any of us to think twice before making a big purchase. For example, you will probably not spend $1,500 on a flat-screen TV without first considering other options and comparing prices between retailers. LendKey points out that it’s the little purchases that sneak up and do damage to your budget!

Teach your child to evaluate each purchase, even if it’s a four-dollar coffee or nine-dollar take-out order. Over time, they will get into a rhythm and develop the habit of mindful spending. Then, those little purchases will not accumulate without their knowledge, and they will know exactly where their dollars are going.

Every parent wants their children to have stability when they enter adulthood. Teaching your teen or young adult the basics of financial management can go a long way in helping them lay a solid foundation for succeeding and flourishing long-term. Consider the information and advice above – including how to budget, and having a grasp of investments and mortgages – and keep researching other ways that you can help your child develop healthy budgeting, spending, and investing habits!

NieCat Life Coaching is a faith-based parent and teen coaching resource that is focused on creating a more fulfilling and meaningful life for you and your children. Reach out today for more info! 305-761-5135

You Are Your Child’s First and Best Role Model

You Are Your Child’s First and Best Role Model

Children learn from their parents how to make good life choices. Children may not always have the capacity for self-reflection and the ability to think about long-term consequences, which often makes it difficult for them to make wise decisions on their own. Parents should be available during this process and provide them with a platform where they can ask questions and get answers when they need them most. Read on for some tips and suggestions from NieCat Life Coaching.

Diet and Exercise  

Nemours KidsHealth notes that the dinner table is where children learn the dietary habits that can last a lifetime. Making healthy food choices for yourself and for them while they are young instills not only a sense of what a proper diet is, but they’ll learn to enjoy those foods if they’re introduced to them at an early age. Make certain both you and they have access to fruits and vegetables for snacking and avoid keeping sodas and chips in the house. You can reserve those for special occasions like parties but keep the healthy stuff on the table then too, to provide a good balance. 

Exercising with your children can be fun for you both. Family bicycling is something everyone can look forward to. Wearing helmets is a must for everyone as well as reflective clothing if you’ll be cycling past sundown. Walking and hiking are other fun activities everyone can do together, especially if it’s punctuated with a picnic

At Home

Keeping your home clean and clutter-free works for you and them. The Pragmatic Parent points out that teaching your children to put things away when they’re done with them means your home, including their rooms, can stay neat and tidy. A home filled with clutter causes stress and bad energy in the home, which means a lot of whining and complaining. Giving kids chores teaches them responsibility and accountability and if they get paid for some of those duties, it’s an opportunity for them to learn about savings, spending wisely, and delayed gratification. 

Scheduling homework time, playtime, and chores is a chance for them to learn time management, too. Kids can get stressed and overwhelmed if they’re not guided throughout their day since it takes time and maturity to learn how to best manage their activities. A printed schedule that is color-coded in a place they visit often, like the refrigerator, can be helpful as well as a clock or an alarm clock that they can read. 

Education, Including Getting an Online Degree

It’s never too early to talk with your children about what they want to achieve in the future. Having a goal, even if it’s one they’ll change often, instills in them the idea of putting the work in now~education~means having the dream job they long for later on. 

Family trips to the library help them learn to appreciate books and all the other services a library offers. Encourage them to check out books about famous people who have done or are doing the job they hope to one day make their career. 

If you’ve been putting off getting a degree, pursuing an online degree gives you the flexibility to pursue your dream while fulfilling other responsibilities. For example, a BSED opens the door for opportunities to work with preschoolers and elementary-aged children. With the ability to learn at your own pace, online coursework allows you to work toward your goals while still taking care of your work and life responsibilities. Best of all, by seeking higher education, your children will benefit from the example you set. 

We hope you’ll adopt a few if not all of the above tips to be the best role model for your kids including living a healthy lifestyle, having a productive and stress-free home, and furthering your education, whether that’s through traditional channels or the online route. Children need guidance, but they also need to be left with a lot of freedom to find out what works best for them. This can only happen when we let them make their own choices while guiding them at the same time. If you need additional guidance and one-on-one support, reach out to parent coach Coach Arthur of NieCat Life Coaching today!

Amanda Hendersonamanda@safechildren.info

Safe Children

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How to Reduce Homework Stress in Your Household

Is homework an ongoing battle at your house? Well, you’re definitely not alone. Though we all want our kids to succeed in the classroom, it’s exhausting to nag them to get their homework done every single evening. With these helpful strategies from NieCat Life Coaching, you may be able to make homework a little less painful in your household.

Provide internet access

Even if you limit screen time in your family, your kids likely need access to the internet for their homework. According to Speak Up, 79% of high school students and 69% of middle schoolers use the internet to do their homework at least a few days a week. When it comes to internet service, your best option is typically an unlimited plan, especially if your kids occasionally have to do their homework outside of their home.

With unlimited service, even if the base price is higher, you won’t have to worry about overage charges, which can add up very quickly. It’s also important to teach your kids about safe internet practices and establish some online rules for your family to protect them while they are using the internet.

Set up a homework station

No matter how big or small your home is, consider designating a specific area where your kids can get their homework done. Many children like to lounge in their bedrooms while doing their homework, but that isn’t always the best solution. It can be more productive if they are sitting in an appropriate chair, at a desk or table, and in a well-lit area of the house that is free of distractions. This area should be free of clutter and messes to keep them focused, and you can add some indoor plants to relieve stress.

Parents should be relatively close by and available to provide feedback whenever possible; however, if you’re working from home, know that you may need to establish some boundaries to prevent work interruptions. Work with your child to create a schedule that meets everyone’s needs.

Another thing to consider: believe it or not, the temperature can have a profound impact on your child’s work habits. If the study space is drafty, take steps to fix it. There are DIY steps you can take, but damaged windows should be repaired. Luckily, Angi has plenty of listings for residential window repair, with the national average repair cost around $290, depending on your area.

Break up the routine

Some kids just can’t pound through all their homework without a break. If your kids work better in spurts, set a timer and provide breaks often, but make them short. Also, gauge your child’s interest and energy level to figure out a routine that works best. Some children prefer to start on homework as soon as they walk through the door. Others need a snack and time to decompress before they can get started. Other children, may work more quickly and productively after dinner.

Get some help

If your child is truly struggling with the work, a tutor might be your best solution. As a parent, you can help them but many children respond better to an outsider when it comes to teaching – and sometimes the subject is out of mom’s and dad’s comfort zone. Additionally, it never hurts to get an outside perspective, so if you’re having a hard time getting through to your child, you can also benefit from the expertise of a teen coach.

How much is too much?

According to Edutopia, The National Education Association and the National PTA agree with the standard of 10 minutes of homework per grade level each night. However, in many schools across the county, the amount of homework that is being assigned these days is excessive. Too much homework can lead to family conflicts, as well as lack of focus, a decrease in comprehension, an increase in stress, and even physical illness. If you feel like your kid has too much homework, it may be time to meet with the teacher or administrators to discuss your options.

Homework can be challenging at every age, and frustrating for both children and their parents. However, by working with your kids to establish a consistent routine, as well as utilizing technology and assistance, you can make things a little easier on your children and yourself.

NieCat Life Coaching specializes in personal growth, parental skills, and teen coaching.

Call 305 761 5135.

I Am the Life Coach for You!

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“Five ways to Raise a Grateful child”

Every parent wants the best for their children. Ideally, every parent wants their children to be happy, healthy and grateful. As a matter of fact, research indicates that modern families classify “gratitude as one of the traits of a healthy family.
It is easy and natural to teach children to say “thank you,” but the challenge is to teach them the feeling of gratitude. The benefits of having a thankful heart and living in a manner where being thankful is a way of life is ideally what every family should strive for. Raising children who live in a thankful state will create individuals who will experience stronger social relationships, life satisfaction, stronger psycholigical well being as well as overall good health.
Gratitude is more than just saying thank you. Gratitude is not just a behavior. Gratitude is an internal experience. According to a research study done in Raising Grateful Children, there is a four-part model of gratitude that concentrates on the items that people give us. The four parts are: analyzing why the items were given, connecting receiving gifts to the feeling it creates, having appreciation for the gift received and showing appreciation for the gift received. The game plan for assuring your child develops heartfelt gratitude is to begin the habit of engaging the 4 parts of the gratitude model, NOTICE-THINK-FEEL-DO. Below are five strategies to foster gratitude within children.
MODEL THANFULNESS
Parents who are grateful daily for the trivial things have children who develop a grateful attitude. As a matter of fact, parents who demonstrate a grateful attitude daily have a higher chance to demonstrate parenting behaviors that foster gratitude. An ideal practice would be to model gratitude by expressing appreciation. Parents should also consider the benefits their children will acquire by seeing them model the NOTICE-THINK-FEEL-DO attributes of gratefulness. These internal behaviors can simply be implemented by sharing thoughts of gratitude out loud.

EMBED IT
The decision a parent makes on what type of environment or niches they create for their children is vital on creating an attitude of gratitude. The niches parents create such as afterschool activity to the playground they choose to spend time should be guided by the goal which is creating an attitude of gratitude. Research confirms that parents who choose activities for their children that instill gratitude create children with grateful hearts. This is vital because it gives parents the tools to affect the children’s attitude of gratitude. Parents should be mindful of the environment they select for their children. There should be a balance in activities that foster healthy bodies and competition and activities which engage children in civic engagement and community service. When parent make a conscious effort of creating children with grateful hearts, the choices made of where time will be spent benefit the children in several ways.

TALK ABOUT IT WHEN IT IS THERE
Parents should take advantage of moments when their children share gratitude as “teachable moments.” Using open-ended questions will allow children to remember grateful experiences with greater details.
TALK ABOUT IT WHEN IT IS NOT THERE
The study found that parents found it challenging to speak with their children about times when they were not grateful. When the children missed an opportunity to share gratefulness, when they showed entitlement or simply missed the opportunity to experience gratitude the parent may feel upset, can be embarrassed and discouraged. The question is how does a parent keep their cool and help children to use these challenging situations as a learning opportunity? In order for parents to speak to their children about missed opportunities for gratitude, parents need to start by using the same conversational skills when talking about times of gratitude. Listening carefully to children’s experiences of these moments, through open-ended child-centered conversation, may provide parents with clues as to what is getting in the way of their children experiencing gratitude. Are they making assumptions about how a gift came their way? Are they focusing on something else in the moment that is important to them and distracting them? Do they not yet have the skill of seeing the situation from someone else’s perspective? These are questions that parents need to ponder if faced with this challenge.
By first learning about how children see these moments, parents may gain new insights into how to get these moments back on track and help children to catch opportunities for gratitude when they come along.
REPEAT IT OFTEN
To become proficient at anything, one needs practice, reflection and time to become an expert at the skill. Is challenging for children to analyze gifts received through thoughts and feelings since it demands for them to depend upon other-focused developmental skills such as perspective and empathy. As children’s brains mature and they practice gratitude, the skills become easier. They become proficient in learning to make the connection between thoughts and feelings and this practice becomes a lifelong skill that everyone uses over their life time. As children get older, their opportunities to experience gratitude attitude increases. Children who can develop the skill to receive the gift behind the gift are in a better position to experience gratitude in a deeper manner and by developing this skill they are able to express gratitude to others in a deeper level.

The research to teach parents how to develop children with grateful hearts is vast. Reading all the advice can become really overwhelming to parents. Take it one day at a time, and if support is what you need, in order to be proficient at teaching your children how to live a grateful life, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_ways_to_raise_a_grateful_child
The GGSC’s coverage of gratitude is sponsored by the John Templeton Foundation as part of our Expanding Gratitude project.

Ten Strategies to Raising Children

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As per the Center for parenting, there are ten key strategies to raising children. Below you can read and share this blog with others.

  1.  Children thrive BEST in a home filled with respect and LOVE. The respect must be a 2 way street. Parents must respect their children and children must do the same.
  2. It is important that parents listen to their children. Listen with a quite non-judgmental ear as your children share their feelings and thoughts.
  3. The main emphasis should be what is good and positive about your children.
  4. Allow your children to learn and do tasks for themselves.
  5. Be cognizant of what your children can accomplish based on their age, maturity and skill level. Celebrate their accomplishments!
  6. Be “consistent!” Do what you say you are going to do.
  7. Do not become physical, emotionally or mentally abusive.
  8. Admit when you make mistakes. Be aware of your mistakes and teach your children that mistakes have lessons within them to be learned.
  9. Behave how you expect your children to behave.
  10. Laughter is the BEST medicine. Make sure your home is filled with a sense of humor.

Need assistance becoming a BETTER parent? Email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

http://centerforparentingeducation.org/

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I Declare

Dear Clients:

I declare that I will use my expertise, my actions and my words to bless you. I will assist you by writing a vision statement with your own words that will bring you favor in your life, world and affairs.

I will assist you so you can call out your Greatness. I will do this with you, by showing you your innate ability to be “Proud of YourSelf, to LOVE YourSelf and to nurture YourSelf.

I am committed to assist so in believing in YourSelf and your dreams. I will work with fidelity to assure You learn to navigate your True Self. Your TRUE Self  is amazing, talented and beautiful.  I am committed to assist you in believing in YourSelf and Your dreams.I will partner with You in agreement that you will do GREAT things in life. This is my declaration to You, My Dear client.

Dear Client you are coachable, you are eager to be BETTER and you have no problem compensating me for how GREAT your life will be! I ONLY work with individuals that want to change!

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I Declare – 31 Promises to speak over your life by Joel Osteen – day 14

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2015 in review

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Recipe to foster Your Children’s Self Esteem

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Is True that children do not come with an instructional manual, however, with that being said, we are more prepared than our parents ever were to raise children with a healthy self esteem and self worth.

To achieve this objective there are certain strategies that MUST be put into place in our daily parenting journey. Below are 11 strategies that will guarantee our children do not need to have therapy during their later years! 🙂

  1. Our Children came from us, however, they are here to serve their own given GOD Purpose. We MUST allow them their space in order to become who GOD created them to be. Showing them unconditional LOVE, and accepting them, teaches them that it is safe to be who GOD created them to be!
  2. Having Honest conversations with our children go a long way. Speak to your children about EVERYTHING based on their age. Teach them about your bills, your budget, your childhood, your teen years.
  3. Use your experiences so that they understand that you are not from Mars. You have to speak to them, not in judgement, not preaching, not lecturing, but have honest communications about feelings and aspirations.
  4. Teach them that an ATM machine is not a magical box and that groceries, gas, clothing, extracurricular activities cost! Show them the value of a dollar. Teach them to make a budget. 
  5. Choose to take the time to LISTEN! No matter what you hear, try your BEST not to use judging words! Listen and then, go to the bathroom or your room and scream, but DO NOT allow your children to feel you are condemning them for sharing their experiences with you!
  6. Consequences are needed in your child’s life! Consequences is a better word than punishment as punishment has a negative connotation. At this time is when I tell you no spanking, however, I am not totally convinced that no spanking is the way to go, so I shall leave it as food for thoughts! The bottom line is that boundaries have to be set and your child MUST know when you are serious and when negotiations can take place. 
  7. Become your child’s greatest “ADVOCATE!” Encourage your child to do what they are passionate about and support them! Become that “soccer MOM,” Drama Dad.”
  8. Act as you say! Look at your behavior, are you acting in a way that would be pleasing to you if you saw your child acting in that manner? The days of “do as I do and not as I say” are gone! We have to be responsible to be life models for our children. 
  9. Do not bully your children! Do not call them names! Do not make fun of them! ALWAYS validate their feelings. 
  10. Having fun is a positive way to deal with Life! Humor is healthy! Remember, humor at the expense of your child is not acceptable!
  11. Make it a priority to learn what makes your child tick! Learn each developmental stage your child is going through and the BEST strategies to assist in this development. If you need assistance with these 11 steps, do not hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com for a FREE 20 minute Parent Life Coaching session.

The Center for Parenting Education, The Parenting Tip – “High self-esteem is not noisy conceit. It is a quiet sense of self-respect, a feeling of self-worth.”

Wise Parenting,

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach

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