On Saturday, My Sorority (Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.) had the Honor of hosting the 40 days of Peace Youth Symposium. We had over 300 individuals attend and many of them were young people.
We had a panel of experts speak to the young people. We had a pastor/professor/major of a city in Miami, a Chief of Police for a local community college, a community college professor, a mother who after her child was murdered started RJT Foundation, Inc.
“Women Supporting Families of Murdered Children” (please check out her website: www.rjtfoundation.com), and a pastor.
I listened as intently as I could possibly listen under the stress of thinking that I myself had to go up on stage at the end and also speak. One thing that I heard said time and time again is what I want to share here. I am sharing it because I heard this message over and over again, last week in different venues so I know I MUST share.
The main idea I heard at this symposium for our young people was,that our thoughts create our experiences. There was one young lady who asked how can she who lives in the inner city, who is confronted with violence at every turn, how can she have peace? How can she not retaliate when that is the world she lives in? The answer was the same. Just because you are surrounded by violence, doesn’t mean you have to be part of the violence.
I read this in a blog last week, well, this is my interpretation:
thoughts + feelings = manifestation.
I will ask parents to try this exercise for the next 40 days and reply to this blog to tell me how it worked out for you. Consider this a Life Coaching FREE session: Reflect upon an area in your parental life you will like to change (ie: screaming excessively). Decide to think differently about screaming. Feel the feeling you will have when you are no longer in need to scream at your children. What does you not screaming look like to you? How does it feel like? What do you hear?
I can’t wait to hear from each and everyone of you that read this blog.
By the way, I decided that for the next 40 days I will not loose my Peace when it comes to my children! I am not going to get upset when they are listening to POP That Pandora and sing it, I have no clue on what they are saying and that drives me NUTS! This is day two, so far so good!
I want to comment about “screaming excessively”. Put your self in the position of the child, your first reaction when someone screams at you is of “fear”, second your ears are blocked, you don’t hear the words that are being said, you are so scared that the words are meaningless to you. On the other hand, if the person speaks in a nice tone of voice, even angry, is easier to pay attention and understand the message. So, if one feels like screaming, should count to ten first.
I hope everyone reads your comment, because it is right on time! I do acknowledge that is not easy, but ALL us Parents should strive not to scream at our children. Me included! 🙂