Category Archives: Teenagers

How to Reduce Homework Stress in Your Household

Is homework an ongoing battle at your house? Well, you’re definitely not alone. Though we all want our kids to succeed in the classroom, it’s exhausting to nag them to get their homework done every single evening. With these helpful strategies from NieCat Life Coaching, you may be able to make homework a little less painful in your household.

Provide internet access

Even if you limit screen time in your family, your kids likely need access to the internet for their homework. According to Speak Up, 79% of high school students and 69% of middle schoolers use the internet to do their homework at least a few days a week. When it comes to internet service, your best option is typically an unlimited plan, especially if your kids occasionally have to do their homework outside of their home.

With unlimited service, even if the base price is higher, you won’t have to worry about overage charges, which can add up very quickly. It’s also important to teach your kids about safe internet practices and establish some online rules for your family to protect them while they are using the internet.

Set up a homework station

No matter how big or small your home is, consider designating a specific area where your kids can get their homework done. Many children like to lounge in their bedrooms while doing their homework, but that isn’t always the best solution. It can be more productive if they are sitting in an appropriate chair, at a desk or table, and in a well-lit area of the house that is free of distractions. This area should be free of clutter and messes to keep them focused, and you can add some indoor plants to relieve stress.

Parents should be relatively close by and available to provide feedback whenever possible; however, if you’re working from home, know that you may need to establish some boundaries to prevent work interruptions. Work with your child to create a schedule that meets everyone’s needs.

Another thing to consider: believe it or not, the temperature can have a profound impact on your child’s work habits. If the study space is drafty, take steps to fix it. There are DIY steps you can take, but damaged windows should be repaired. Luckily, Angi has plenty of listings for residential window repair, with the national average repair cost around $290, depending on your area.

Break up the routine

Some kids just can’t pound through all their homework without a break. If your kids work better in spurts, set a timer and provide breaks often, but make them short. Also, gauge your child’s interest and energy level to figure out a routine that works best. Some children prefer to start on homework as soon as they walk through the door. Others need a snack and time to decompress before they can get started. Other children, may work more quickly and productively after dinner.

Get some help

If your child is truly struggling with the work, a tutor might be your best solution. As a parent, you can help them but many children respond better to an outsider when it comes to teaching – and sometimes the subject is out of mom’s and dad’s comfort zone. Additionally, it never hurts to get an outside perspective, so if you’re having a hard time getting through to your child, you can also benefit from the expertise of a teen coach.

How much is too much?

According to Edutopia, The National Education Association and the National PTA agree with the standard of 10 minutes of homework per grade level each night. However, in many schools across the county, the amount of homework that is being assigned these days is excessive. Too much homework can lead to family conflicts, as well as lack of focus, a decrease in comprehension, an increase in stress, and even physical illness. If you feel like your kid has too much homework, it may be time to meet with the teacher or administrators to discuss your options.

Homework can be challenging at every age, and frustrating for both children and their parents. However, by working with your kids to establish a consistent routine, as well as utilizing technology and assistance, you can make things a little easier on your children and yourself.

NieCat Life Coaching specializes in personal growth, parental skills, and teen coaching.

Call 305 761 5135.

I Am the Life Coach for You!

The Life Coach for You!

Are you looking for someone to mentor/guide your teenager?

Are you looking for support with your parenting style?

Do you need to be motivated and empowered to accomplish your life goals?

I am the Life Coach for you!

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Four weeks for the price of THREE!

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach

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I Declare

Dear Clients:

I declare that I will use my expertise, my actions and my words to bless you. I will assist you by writing a vision statement with your own words that will bring you favor in your life, world and affairs.

I will assist you so you can call out your Greatness. I will do this with you, by showing you your innate ability to be “Proud of YourSelf, to LOVE YourSelf and to nurture YourSelf.

I am committed to assist so in believing in YourSelf and your dreams. I will work with fidelity to assure You learn to navigate your True Self. Your TRUE Self  is amazing, talented and beautiful.  I am committed to assist you in believing in YourSelf and Your dreams.I will partner with You in agreement that you will do GREAT things in life. This is my declaration to You, My Dear client.

Dear Client you are coachable, you are eager to be BETTER and you have no problem compensating me for how GREAT your life will be! I ONLY work with individuals that want to change!

Email me: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

I Declare – 31 Promises to speak over your life by Joel Osteen – day 14

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2015 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2015 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 2,100 times in 2015. If it were a cable car, it would take about 35 trips to carry that many people.

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Recipe to foster Your Children’s Self Esteem

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Is True that children do not come with an instructional manual, however, with that being said, we are more prepared than our parents ever were to raise children with a healthy self esteem and self worth.

To achieve this objective there are certain strategies that MUST be put into place in our daily parenting journey. Below are 11 strategies that will guarantee our children do not need to have therapy during their later years! 🙂

  1. Our Children came from us, however, they are here to serve their own given GOD Purpose. We MUST allow them their space in order to become who GOD created them to be. Showing them unconditional LOVE, and accepting them, teaches them that it is safe to be who GOD created them to be!
  2. Having Honest conversations with our children go a long way. Speak to your children about EVERYTHING based on their age. Teach them about your bills, your budget, your childhood, your teen years.
  3. Use your experiences so that they understand that you are not from Mars. You have to speak to them, not in judgement, not preaching, not lecturing, but have honest communications about feelings and aspirations.
  4. Teach them that an ATM machine is not a magical box and that groceries, gas, clothing, extracurricular activities cost! Show them the value of a dollar. Teach them to make a budget. 
  5. Choose to take the time to LISTEN! No matter what you hear, try your BEST not to use judging words! Listen and then, go to the bathroom or your room and scream, but DO NOT allow your children to feel you are condemning them for sharing their experiences with you!
  6. Consequences are needed in your child’s life! Consequences is a better word than punishment as punishment has a negative connotation. At this time is when I tell you no spanking, however, I am not totally convinced that no spanking is the way to go, so I shall leave it as food for thoughts! The bottom line is that boundaries have to be set and your child MUST know when you are serious and when negotiations can take place. 
  7. Become your child’s greatest “ADVOCATE!” Encourage your child to do what they are passionate about and support them! Become that “soccer MOM,” Drama Dad.”
  8. Act as you say! Look at your behavior, are you acting in a way that would be pleasing to you if you saw your child acting in that manner? The days of “do as I do and not as I say” are gone! We have to be responsible to be life models for our children. 
  9. Do not bully your children! Do not call them names! Do not make fun of them! ALWAYS validate their feelings. 
  10. Having fun is a positive way to deal with Life! Humor is healthy! Remember, humor at the expense of your child is not acceptable!
  11. Make it a priority to learn what makes your child tick! Learn each developmental stage your child is going through and the BEST strategies to assist in this development. If you need assistance with these 11 steps, do not hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com for a FREE 20 minute Parent Life Coaching session.

The Center for Parenting Education, The Parenting Tip – “High self-esteem is not noisy conceit. It is a quiet sense of self-respect, a feeling of self-worth.”

Wise Parenting,

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach

http://www.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

Happy New Year in July!

It is ALWAYS  a good day to begin again!

 

Take a Life Inventory, think about what your New Year Resolutions were for 2014!1688378_701678123210038_770706810_n

 

How are you doing?

 

Are you on target with your New Year Resolutions?

 

Are you satisfied with your progress?

 

What can you do different to make a positive impact in your life, world and affairs for the rest of the year?

 

Do you want to become more focused on your goals?

 

Do you need assistance keeping YourSelf motivated?

 

Do you think you would be a good candidate for Life Coaching?

 

If you want to explore the benefits of Life Coaching, send me an email, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session!

 


Happy New Year!

Happy New You!

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach

 

 

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Radio Interview

Radio Interview

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Life Coaching Session

In this TV show, Coach Arthur introduces herself, shares the meaning of Life Coaching and conducts a true life coaching session

Enjoy!

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Ways to avoid loosing it!

Ways to avoid loosing it!

When you know BETTER you do BETTER!
The MOST important job we have as parents does not come with directions. It is no secret that parenting is by far one of the most difficult jobs a parent will encounter. Luckily, nowadays there are may venus and outlets one can utilize to assist with child-rearing!
One of the strategies can be hiring a therapist, looking on line for helpful parenting websites, reading books about parenting or hiring someone like myself, a life coach for parents and teens.
To this end, I am always reading and I found a very interesting article in onetoughjob.org which shared some very interesting strategies for parents who experienced their children pushing their buttons. These are strategies I have recommended to my own clients and they are are worth sharing.

The same child who have brought you joy, love and proud moments can also make you feel as if you are going to loose it, when you experience these moments, there are strategies which will assist in making the situation better or assist in moving forward.
Some strategies to use when you are loosing it:

Forgive Yourself:
If in fact you have lost your temper with your child, please, forgive yourself! That is the first step to fix the problem. Once you have forgiven yourself, then, you can have a conversation with your child and apologize. Verbalize your feelings and admit that you did not handle the situation properly. Believe it or not, this will be a life lesson for your child.

You are not alone:
You are not the first parent who have lost your temper or have worked very hard not to loose your temper. Unfortunately we as a society do not speak about our weakness, but we all have them. You are not the first parent whose child has done something wrong or embarrassing. Do not judge yourself so harshly, Remember, your child is here to go through his/her own journey. Be gently with yourself!

View their actions as a way to communicate:
At times our children do not know how to express their emotions. At times, their actions appear to be bizarre to us, but if you open the lines of communication you will see there is a reason for the behavior. You just need to ask without judgment! Try your BEST to always find out where your child is coming from. Ask a lot of why questions, and be patient enough to wait for the answer.

Seek Support:
There are many parenting groups that will support you through tough times, hiring a Life Coach for parents like myself will also benefit your journey into better parenting. Having someone who can relieve you of your parenting duties while you take a deep breath or go out is also an excellent idea.

Understand your response:
Sometimes it is difficult to stop and count before reacting. Before spanking, yelling, calling your child names, Stop! Stop and think of what is going to happen next. Do a quick self assessment and take a deep breath. Once that angry moment has passed, you will be able to think and speak more clearly. Remember, your intention is NOT to hurt your child’s feelings!

Be on the same page with your Co-Parent:
A child must feel as routines are a way of life. Both parents must demonstrate a united front when it comes to parenting. Your child will see if there are any fragile areas in your parenting and will divide and conquer.

Be consistent:
This is not one of the strategies in the article, but I believe that being consistent will allow you to be a better parent. If you say it, then, you must do it! It is important that your child knows, understands, but most importantly believe that if you say it, you mean it!

If you need someone who will assist you with your parenting skills or your teens’ ability to handle life effectively, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

Happy Parenting,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Parenting Teens – to be their friend or to be their parent

Parenting Teens -  to be their friend or to be their parent

On Monday, January 6, 2014 I was part of a radio interview in Tallahassee, Florida and Valdosta, Georgia.
I was featured as a Certified Professional Life Coach answering questions about teen parenting, and addressing the question of being a friend to your teens.

Please listen & enjoy!

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Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach