Monthly Archives: July 2014

Recipe to foster Your Children’s Self Esteem


Is True that children do not come with an instructional manual, however, with that being said, we are more prepared than our parents ever were to raise children with a healthy self esteem and self worth.

To achieve this objective there are certain strategies that MUST be put into place in our daily parenting journey. Below are 11 strategies that will guarantee our children do not need to have therapy during their later years! 🙂

  1. Our Children came from us, however, they are here to serve their own given GOD Purpose. We MUST allow them their space in order to become who GOD created them to be. Showing them unconditional LOVE, and accepting them, teaches them that it is safe to be who GOD created them to be!
  2. Having Honest conversations with our children go a long way. Speak to your children about EVERYTHING based on their age. Teach them about your bills, your budget, your childhood, your teen years.
  3. Use your experiences so that they understand that you are not from Mars. You have to speak to them, not in judgement, not preaching, not lecturing, but have honest communications about feelings and aspirations.
  4. Teach them that an ATM machine is not a magical box and that groceries, gas, clothing, extracurricular activities cost! Show them the value of a dollar. Teach them to make a budget. 
  5. Choose to take the time to LISTEN! No matter what you hear, try your BEST not to use judging words! Listen and then, go to the bathroom or your room and scream, but DO NOT allow your children to feel you are condemning them for sharing their experiences with you!
  6. Consequences are needed in your child’s life! Consequences is a better word than punishment as punishment has a negative connotation. At this time is when I tell you no spanking, however, I am not totally convinced that no spanking is the way to go, so I shall leave it as food for thoughts! The bottom line is that boundaries have to be set and your child MUST know when you are serious and when negotiations can take place. 
  7. Become your child’s greatest “ADVOCATE!” Encourage your child to do what they are passionate about and support them! Become that “soccer MOM,” Drama Dad.”
  8. Act as you say! Look at your behavior, are you acting in a way that would be pleasing to you if you saw your child acting in that manner? The days of “do as I do and not as I say” are gone! We have to be responsible to be life models for our children. 
  9. Do not bully your children! Do not call them names! Do not make fun of them! ALWAYS validate their feelings. 
  10. Having fun is a positive way to deal with Life! Humor is healthy! Remember, humor at the expense of your child is not acceptable!
  11. Make it a priority to learn what makes your child tick! Learn each developmental stage your child is going through and the BEST strategies to assist in this development. If you need assistance with these 11 steps, do not hesitate to email me, for a FREE 20 minute Parent Life Coaching session.

The Center for Parenting Education, The Parenting Tip – “High self-esteem is not noisy conceit. It is a quiet sense of self-respect, a feeling of self-worth.”

Wise Parenting,

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach

Happy New Year in July!

It is ALWAYS  a good day to begin again!


Take a Life Inventory, think about what your New Year Resolutions were for 2014!1688378_701678123210038_770706810_n


How are you doing?


Are you on target with your New Year Resolutions?


Are you satisfied with your progress?


What can you do different to make a positive impact in your life, world and affairs for the rest of the year?


Do you want to become more focused on your goals?


Do you need assistance keeping YourSelf motivated?


Do you think you would be a good candidate for Life Coaching?


If you want to explore the benefits of Life Coaching, send me an email, for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session!


Happy New Year!

Happy New You!

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach



Learn from Failure


Failure is not an option!

A perceived failure can only be described as such if the lesson is not learned. 

When we choose to learn humility, forgiveness, depth of reflection and better decision making skills, then, we have not failed.
Once a lesson is learned, it cannot possibly be a failure.

Everything happens for a reason and everything happens for our Highest Good! GOD is in the Business of Our Highest good. Therefore, if it happens and we learn the lesson, then, we can name the situation good and very good. 

The people that we admire and those we call GREAT have experienced situations that can be described as failures. What is the difference between them and a regular person?
They have made a conscious decision to dig deep within themselves and find the strength to get back up. 

If a situation is in front of Us, is because we have everything within us to be successful, therefore it cannot be a failure.

Life is a “Thinking Thing” and failure is not a thought that should be an option!

A Year of Miracles, Daily Devotions and Reflections by Marianne Williamson

Day 186 – Today I choose to learn from my failures

Here is to Success,

Coach Arthur

Certified Professional Life Coach



Exercise Your Imagination


In the book “Ask & It Is Given” Esther & Jerry Hicks explains how essential it is to use your imagination.

Imagination according to the dictionary means: the faculty or action of forming new ideas, or images or concepts of external objects not present to the senses.
if you think about it, that is the same definition of Faith. Faith is being sure of the things we hope for and knowing that something is real even if we do not see it ( way I see it, using our imagination is using our Faith.

According to the book instead of living in the present and worry about what you don’t want, they offer an alternative! Think about what you want! Think about how you want the situation to go. Once you think about it, notice the feeling you have while you are thinking about it. At you smiling? Are you feeling good about the thoughts that are crossing your mind? According to the book, if you think of a specific thought for 17 seconds, other thoughts of like mind will come to play. That 17 minutes will become longer and longer until you are exercising your Faith/Imagination faculty without even noticing it.

Try it! I find myself much happier as I use my Faith/Imagination Faculty to think and feel about how I want to see my life. The BEST part? I am manifesting some GREAT things in my life!

If you want to learn how to exercise your Faith/Imagination Faculty inbox me for a 20 minute FREE Life Coaching Session!

I Am Imagination,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach


I LOVE Coaching

For the last 30 years of my life I have been struggling with my life as a working mother of 3, a “want to be” perfect wife, daughter, grandmother, house-maker, and keeping the house in perfect order. I have spent so much money on books, trying to find a way to manage it all, and, to “keep my house in order”, that the subject became an obsession.
At the beginning I blamed my children, then my husband, the grandchildren, but at the end, the blame (in my mind) fell on me, the I want to be “perfect wonder woman”.
With the help and guidance of my Life Coach, Coach Arthur, I realized that I can accomplish my dreams, if I organize my time, and let go of unnecessary “stuff” that have no place in our home.
Thank you Coach. Arthur, thank you for your wisdom and your help!
M. S., Secretary – Mother of 3 -Miami, Florida

“While working with Coach Arthur as my coach I have been thoroughly impressed with her ability to bring attention to what is most important. She really listened, gave me excellent ideas, and offered me her sage wisdom to take with me into my accomplishments.
Achieving my goals has been incredibly easy with her support. I mostly appreciate the clear and intelligent distinctions she has made that have allowed me to positively transform the way I’m doing something or how I’m viewing my life. Through her coaching I learned to give myself permission to succeed.
I’m in so much gratitude for what Coach Arthur brought forth in me at a time when I really needed the extra support. She is truly a brilliant star in my world.”
T. D., Life Coach, San Diego, CA

I must admit that in the beginning, I had no idea as to what a life coach was. I assumed that it would be like my uneventful meetings with the psychologist. I did not realize that I would see immediate results after the first session. Coach Arthur guides you step by step towards reaching your aim. Each week, Coach Arthur helped me to set small attainable goals that ultimately led to my success. Having Coach Arthur as my Life Coach is like having my own personal cheerleader rooting me on 24/7.
Y. F., Teacher, Mother – Miami, Florida

I tried Coach Arthur to release my debt and become liquid. Once I had my first session I felt inspired and ready to accomplish my goal. Coach Arthur was very firm in her follow up and held me accountable for my choices. I am still in the process of reaching my goal but I actually see a light at the end of the tunnel and my shopping habit has decreased quite a bit. I expect to be debt free in about a year and I have to thank Coach Arthur for leading me to realize my goal.
G. Z. P., Mother, Insurance Adjuster, Orlando, Florida

Some times you go thru life struggling with an “invisible enemy”, a problem, blaming family members for your “failures”, your spouse, your children. Then a Life Coach steps in, helps you make a few changes, then you realize that the so called “problem”, that has been hunting you for years, is inside of you, IS YOU !
I want to take this opportunity to thank my Life Coach, Ms. Miriam Carlota Arthur for guiding me, for being so patient, for telling me the “reality” in a way that I could see it, for not getting frustrated when I kept making the same mistake day after day, until the light came to me , and her words made me see!
Thank you!
M. S.,Secretary, Miami, Florida

I’m happy to share my experience. Just one session with Coach Arthur and I feel much more focused and relaxed. Because of this, I got a jump-start back into a more productive groove. It’s a good feeling to suddenly see, to become aware of, what the holdup has been. I snapped out of my funk, with Coach Arthur’s help, and I feel more hopeful, positive and happy. Thanks for the freebie, Coach Arthur! It was a pleasure to work with you! I highly recommend you as a life coach.
B., Chemist, Raleigh, North Carolina

My interaction with Coach Arthur was very lasting since she is very easy to talk to, friendly and eager to genuinely help others in need of professional and personal guidelines. I have not met a Life Coach like her before. I also continue to enjoy her correspondence as well as her web site inspirational and meaningful stories which most often relate to our personal lives.
W. J. M., Miami, Florida

Skeptical would have to be the word and the feeling I had when i reached out to Coach Arthur with questions and concerns on a new direction in my life. I had enough questions for myself and wasn’t sure if I had the self esteem to share my “fears with someone else. Coach Arthur got straight to the point and was so on target from Day one that it shocked me that I had so much information about “Me” in one day. I sat still for a moment and when I begin working the process I immediately felt some relief about my new direction in my life. During the remaining time with Coach Arthur I noticed plans that I had been holding on to for quite some time became tangible goals that I was completing or either I had placed them in my path to complete. I could see the forest.
“Still Learning”
A. L. G., Lead Teacher, Miami, Florida

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I LOVE Life Coaching,
Coach Arthur


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