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Teenage Survival 101

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Being a Mother and an Educator has taught me a very valuable lesson. Well, I have learned many lessons, but I am just going to share one today. In order to develop a strong relationship with your teen you MUST be a parent of your word.

From the moment my girls were little I only told them our plans when I was 100% sure we were going to do it.  If I said they were on punishment, the punishment was carried out. I always kept my word, one situation at a time.  This allowed them to become teens that knew that when MOM said it, she meant it. It is important that parents keep their word as we must teach by example. This is what is going to create TRUST. Trust, a big word needed in order to foster a positive relationship between parent and teen.

Need assistance creating TRUST between your teen and you?  Email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

Coach Arthur
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Thoughts are things!

Thoughts are things!

I can’t say enough about the book “Ask and It Is Given” by Esther and Jerry Hicks!

I have read this book twice and the second time has literally opened a whole new world for and to me!

I have learned that if I am continuously mindful of how I am feeling within, I can literally stop myself from thinking thoughts that will serve no purpose in my life.
I learned that feeling my feelings is the easiest way to gauge what I am thinking. If I notice that I am not feeling at peace, calm in a state of well-being, all I have to do is think about what I am thinking about and change my thoughts immediately.

A very important question I have learned to ask myself is:
What is the purpose of having thoughts that will not enhance my life?
The answer to this question is one of the lessons this book has taught me.

An example:
I LOVE thinking of different scenarios where I tell someone how I feel about what I am experiencing or how I feel about what they did to me.
Well, I no longer do that, or should I say, I stop myself from doing that now!
I learned that this thinking process is a total waste of time!
After all, the Bible tells me that the words will come to me exactly when I need them.

Knowing that my feelings are a guiding tool/gauge to control my thoughts is the BEST lesson I have learned thus far in 2014.

If you are interested in knowing how to train your thoughts, by learning how your feelings can teach you the value of the thoughts you are having, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session!

Feeling my feelings and guiding my thoughts,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Ways to avoid loosing it!

Ways to avoid loosing it!

When you know BETTER you do BETTER!
The MOST important job we have as parents does not come with directions. It is no secret that parenting is by far one of the most difficult jobs a parent will encounter. Luckily, nowadays there are may venus and outlets one can utilize to assist with child-rearing!
One of the strategies can be hiring a therapist, looking on line for helpful parenting websites, reading books about parenting or hiring someone like myself, a life coach for parents and teens.
To this end, I am always reading and I found a very interesting article in onetoughjob.org which shared some very interesting strategies for parents who experienced their children pushing their buttons. These are strategies I have recommended to my own clients and they are are worth sharing.

The same child who have brought you joy, love and proud moments can also make you feel as if you are going to loose it, when you experience these moments, there are strategies which will assist in making the situation better or assist in moving forward.
Some strategies to use when you are loosing it:

Forgive Yourself:
If in fact you have lost your temper with your child, please, forgive yourself! That is the first step to fix the problem. Once you have forgiven yourself, then, you can have a conversation with your child and apologize. Verbalize your feelings and admit that you did not handle the situation properly. Believe it or not, this will be a life lesson for your child.

You are not alone:
You are not the first parent who have lost your temper or have worked very hard not to loose your temper. Unfortunately we as a society do not speak about our weakness, but we all have them. You are not the first parent whose child has done something wrong or embarrassing. Do not judge yourself so harshly, Remember, your child is here to go through his/her own journey. Be gently with yourself!

View their actions as a way to communicate:
At times our children do not know how to express their emotions. At times, their actions appear to be bizarre to us, but if you open the lines of communication you will see there is a reason for the behavior. You just need to ask without judgment! Try your BEST to always find out where your child is coming from. Ask a lot of why questions, and be patient enough to wait for the answer.

Seek Support:
There are many parenting groups that will support you through tough times, hiring a Life Coach for parents like myself will also benefit your journey into better parenting. Having someone who can relieve you of your parenting duties while you take a deep breath or go out is also an excellent idea.

Understand your response:
Sometimes it is difficult to stop and count before reacting. Before spanking, yelling, calling your child names, Stop! Stop and think of what is going to happen next. Do a quick self assessment and take a deep breath. Once that angry moment has passed, you will be able to think and speak more clearly. Remember, your intention is NOT to hurt your child’s feelings!

Be on the same page with your Co-Parent:
A child must feel as routines are a way of life. Both parents must demonstrate a united front when it comes to parenting. Your child will see if there are any fragile areas in your parenting and will divide and conquer.

Be consistent:
This is not one of the strategies in the article, but I believe that being consistent will allow you to be a better parent. If you say it, then, you must do it! It is important that your child knows, understands, but most importantly believe that if you say it, you mean it!

If you need someone who will assist you with your parenting skills or your teens’ ability to handle life effectively, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

Happy Parenting,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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LOVE begins at home!

LOVE begins at home!

How many times have you caught yourself being nicer to strangers than your own family?
As I coach teens one of the main concerns teens have is how they are treated by their parents compared to others.
I often have to remind parents that their teens were once their toddlers. Just because they are now weird and know it all doesn’t mean they do not need our LOVE and attention.
Sometimes is the way we speak to our teens that makes the difference. Our tone can make a difficult situation better or more challenging.
Consider bringing a soft tone to your voice, consider having Lovely thoughts when you call your teen’s name, consider treating you teen as if they were a guest in your home, but most importantly remember what it was to be a teen.

Teens need LOVE too,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
wwww.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

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Worrying is literally betting against Yourself!

Worrying is literally betting against Yourself!

Worrying is a total waste of emotion!
Regardless if you worry or not, the outcome will be whatever the outcome is going to be.
Your thoughts and your feelings have the power to re-direct your life.

If you are going to think, might as well think of thoughts in your favor. See yourself as GOD sees you, Whole, Healthy and Complete. When you begin a new endeavor, see yourself being successful with it and at it. LOVE Yourself enough to ONLY wish you well! When you have trials and tribulations, think grateful thoughts for the lessons that the situation will bestow upon you!!

Bet on yourself!
LOVE Yourself!
Consider thoughts a seed; plant seeds that will give you the fruit that you are longing for.

Happy Thoughts,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoach.com

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“I Bestow Blessings Upon You!

As I study the teachings of Joel Osteen I am now convinced that I have the Power to Bless others as well as myself.

Reading the 11th day of Joel Osteen’s daily word, it inspired me to bestow a Blessing upon ALL of my readers:

I Declare Abundant Blessings Upon You and Yours. GOD Blessed you with Faith, Peace and Understanding! As you walk through the day
I Bless you with the Faith you need in order to encounter your day Victoriously.
I Bless you with Peace so that you can walk through your day knowing that ALL IS Well!
I Bless you with understanding to convince yourself that no matter what you see you will be the last one standing.

I Bless You with the realization that as long as you put GOD First, you have Faith and Understanding you can have the Desires of your Heart!

Blessings!
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
wwww.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com