Tag Archives: Life coaching

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Parenting Teens – to be their friend or to be their parent

Parenting Teens -  to be their friend or to be their parent

On Monday, January 6, 2014 I was part of a radio interview in Tallahassee, Florida and Valdosta, Georgia.
I was featured as a Certified Professional Life Coach answering questions about teen parenting, and addressing the question of being a friend to your teens.

Please listen & enjoy!

Click here to listen…

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach

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You

You

I am so extremely Grateful for this post! It was sent to me by Brandye Dague. The objective was to do something uplifting for me. As I read it, I became empowered and I decided to share it with ALL my clients and readers. Please pay it forward and share these words with someone!

Let me tell you something about YOU.

YOU can do anything you want.

YOU are in control.

YOU can achieve as much success as you want to.

YOU can and will pick yourself up when life knocks you down.

I BELIEVE IN YOU.

That’s all I wanted to say,

You see, Your success, Your Prosperity, Your Health, Your Peace, it all starts with YOU.

YOU can make a difference!

Blessing You,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Change Is Good!!

Hang in there!

Many times my clients and I come up with GREAT plans to start a new. Plans that will allow them to leave the behaviors that were not wanted and adopt new behaviors.

The challenge?
Other people have a hard time realizing that people can change, that change is possible.

It is truly a challenge when someone changes, but the people around them, still treat them as if they are still in the past. Change is good and those who cannot deal with the fact that you are in the process of changing do not belong in your change/life process.

Celebrate your willingness to change,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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“I Am a Healer!”

Adapted from Joel Osteen I Declare – 31 Promises to Speak Over Your Life – Day 16

As I am Blessed with the growth of my Life Coaching practice, I consider and approach my clients as a Healer.

I Declare that I will be a Healer to my clients. I will be sensitive to their needs. The objective of me writing their vision statements will be to lift them if they have fallen, restore them to their original whole, healthy and complete beings and to encourage them to see themselves as GOD sees them.

I will speak and listen to them with compassion and kind words. I will speak miracles into my clients’ life. I will become a miracle by showing my clients’ GOD’s LOVE & Mercy.

This is my Declaration to My Clients!

Grateful for Coachable Clients,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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If you want change, You MUST change

If you want change, You MUST change

In my Life Coaching practice I have experienced many parents coming to me asking to help with their teenagers and their attitudes. The first question I ask? How do you react when the attitude begins? The answers to this question are very informative!

As Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience, we tend to forget (the reason why we suffer) that we have Power & Dominion over our actions and reactions. I often have to write my clients vision statements reminding them of this very important point.
What does that mean?
That we have control on how we react to situations that are less than ideal with an attitude that can defuse the situation and make things BETTER.

When our teenagers give us attitude (not disrespect), the BEST way to handle it is pointing out the behavior to them, but most importantly, we MUST make sure that our attitude does not compare to theirs. The ONLY way we can teach our teenage children how to BEST handle their emotions, actions and reactions is by keeping our cool and having a handle on our words and deeds when we interact with them. We MUST become the change we want to see in our households!

Happy parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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What are you saying?

What are you saying?

What are you saying to your children?
What type of words are you using when you are speaking to them?

My Dearest Father taught me many lessons in life. there are two very important lessons which helped me parent effectively. The first lesson he taught me was how to speak to my children. I lived with my Dad and my Step-Mother from the time I was 12 years old until the time I left to college at 18. In ALL those years living in Brooklyn, New York I NEVER, EVER heard my Dad say a bad word, NEVER! No matter how angry he was (I really don’t remember My Dad being angry to be honest with you), he never cursed, and he definitely never used bad words when speaking to my step-brother, step-sisters or myself never.

The second lesson I learned from my Dad is NEVER to speak negatively to my children’s dreams. No matter what I told him he never put the idea down and he never criticized the idea. He did have a lot of wisdom and shared the pros and the cons about my ideas, but ultimately I made the decisions.

When we speak to our children, there is no need to use bad words, there is no need to put our children down.

Be kind to your children, remember, The manner in which you are speaking to your children is teaching them a couple of things, they are learning from you how to treat others, how to speak to others, and how worthy they are but most importantly, they are learning from you how to be parents one day!

Happy Parenting,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Our Children came from us but they are not us!

Our Children came from us but they are not us!

Don’t cut your child’s wings because of your dreams and aspirations. Your dreams are yours. Their dreams are theirs! As parents we are here to Guide, Cultivate & Support their dreams!

The Late Rev. Dr. Mary A. Tumpkin taught me many things during the 20 years that she was my Spiritual Teacher. One of the lessons that I received, and understood without much studying was: My two girls, Nie and Cat came from me but they are not mine. GOD sent them here for a reason; GOD put within them EVERYTHING they needed in order to fulfill their Destiny. GOD has a plan for them and I have no right to tell them who they should become.

I guided them into activities and they selected the activities which made their Hearts soar. Nie is an actress by birth. Is in her blood, and though a lot of people would disagree with their child following an acting career, my thought was, that is what makes her happy.

Cat is a speaker, a writer, a spinner. She might be a lawyer, she might be a writer, she might be a journalist, she might be an activist, she might even be a Politian. These are things I see in her, but never will I influence her (only guide) on who she will be in life.

Parents, it is not our job to divert our children’s dreams. Our job is to guide them, to show them their options, and ultimately, only our children can make that the decision.

Parenting with Wisdom,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com