We as Parents are so involved in our lives that sometimes we loose our perspective. We feel that just because a situation is going a certain way with our children there is no solution, and that is not the case.
There are times that as parents we have to rely on someone on their outside to assist us in seeing things right! Keep in mind that Our minds, and thoughts determine our experiences!
Believe it or Not!
Consider this situation! By the way, I just made up these names as well as the situation itself, though I am quite sure you can see yourself or someone else in this story!
Tina is a single mother with a lot of family support, she has a son named Jaimito who she LOVES very much, however, she finds herself screaming at him ALL the time. After all, that is the type of environment she grew up in!
Tina solicits the assistance of a Life Coach in order to make lasting changes in her life, world and affairs. Here is the summary of her first session: The first thing Tina needs to do is declare what is her objective, her goal. According to Tina, she wants to stop yelling at Jaimito ALL the time. What Tina needs to do now with the support of her Life Coach, is to change her mind about the situation she finds herself in. Her Life Coach will assists her by asking her questions, these questions are geared to assist Tina in understanding why she yells. By listening to the answers to the Life Coach questions, Tina will be able to come to the realization of why she yells. The line of questioning will also allow the Life Coach to come up with a strategy (vision statement) to allow Tina to change her mind set by influencing her conscious and subconscious mind of the need to change her behavior. Tina goes home with a total mind shift and is this mind shift/change, that allows Tina to see things differently. Now when Jaimito does the same actions which triggered Tina to scream, Tina does not have the need to scream! She has changed her mind about her situation, therefore, her situation has changed!
Tina decided to hire a Life Coach as a strategy in order to stay focus on her goal, knowing that her Life Coach will always be there to empower, motivate, support her and hold her accountable for her actions towards her goal.
In continuing sessions Tina will solidify what she learned in her first session.
January 28, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, empowering, Father, help, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, motivation, Parenting, support, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged children, coaching, empowerment, fatherhood, Life Coach, motherhood, parenthood, support, thought
NieCat for a BETTER You – Mission Statement:
NieCat empowers parents, teens and clients alike to live a BETTER life by supporting, empowering, and motivating them to identify goals and develop plans to continue on their path towards self-improvement and self acceptance.
January 26, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, consultation, empowering, Father, help, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, motivation, Parenting, support, Teenagers, wisdom
Tagged assistance, coaching, consultation, empowering, father, fatherhood, help, Life, Life Coach, mother, motherhood, motivation, parenthood, support, wisdom
“Consequences are needed in order to create productive adults!”
January 25, 2013 in Children, Coaching, Father, Humor, Laugh, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, Parenting, Teenagers, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged children, coaching, consequences, fatherhood, humor, laughs, Life coaching, motherhood
When you read this caption think of your children!
Are you happy with the manner in which you spoke to them today?
January 23, 2013 in Children, Coaching, Father, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, Parenting, Truth
Tagged coaching, fatherhood, Life Coach, Lifestyle, motherhood, parenting
On Saturday, My Sorority (Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.) had the Honor of hosting the 40 days of Peace Youth Symposium. We had over 300 individuals attend and many of them were young people.
We had a panel of experts speak to the young people. We had a pastor/professor/major of a city in Miami, a Chief of Police for a local community college, a community college professor, a mother who after her child was murdered started RJT Foundation, Inc.
“Women Supporting Families of Murdered Children” (please check out her website: www.rjtfoundation.com), and a pastor.
I listened as intently as I could possibly listen under the stress of thinking that I myself had to go up on stage at the end and also speak. One thing that I heard said time and time again is what I want to share here. I am sharing it because I heard this message over and over again, last week in different venues so I know I MUST share.
The main idea I heard at this symposium for our young people was,that our thoughts create our experiences. There was one young lady who asked how can she who lives in the inner city, who is confronted with violence at every turn, how can she have peace? How can she not retaliate when that is the world she lives in? The answer was the same. Just because you are surrounded by violence, doesn’t mean you have to be part of the violence.
I read this in a blog last week, well, this is my interpretation:
thoughts + feelings = manifestation.
I will ask parents to try this exercise for the next 40 days and reply to this blog to tell me how it worked out for you. Consider this a Life Coaching FREE session: Reflect upon an area in your parental life you will like to change (ie: screaming excessively). Decide to think differently about screaming. Feel the feeling you will have when you are no longer in need to scream at your children. What does you not screaming look like to you? How does it feel like? What do you hear?
I can’t wait to hear from each and everyone of you that read this blog.
By the way, I decided that for the next 40 days I will not loose my Peace when it comes to my children! I am not going to get upset when they are listening to POP That Pandora and sing it, I have no clue on what they are saying and that drives me NUTS! This is day two, so far so good!
Posted in Children, Coaching, Father, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, Parenting, Truth
Tagged children, fatherhood, Life, Life Coach, Lifestyle, mother, motherhood, parenting, parents, rules, Teenagers, thinking, Thoughts, truth
Parents, can you remember what your mother told you when you were 6 years old? Do you remember that she told you that you could not do that! Perhaps your Dad told you that you were too little to play that game, or your sister kept calling you names. and the name calling hurt your feelings. Do you remember how it made you feel?
Now, you are an adult with children of your own. Remember those feelings when you want to tell your child that he/she can’t, or you want to call them a name or without thinking you say something that you can tell made them feel bad.
Don’t do it!
Remember, they won’t forget it!
January 17, 2013 in Children, Father, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, Parenting, Teenagers
Tagged common sense, fatherhood, Life, Life Coach, motherhood, parenting