Category Archives: Coaching

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Our Children came from us but they are not us!

Our Children came from us but they are not us!

Don’t cut your child’s wings because of your dreams and aspirations. Your dreams are yours. Their dreams are theirs! As parents we are here to Guide, Cultivate & Support their dreams!

The Late Rev. Dr. Mary A. Tumpkin taught me many things during the 20 years that she was my Spiritual Teacher. One of the lessons that I received, and understood without much studying was: My two girls, Nie and Cat came from me but they are not mine. GOD sent them here for a reason; GOD put within them EVERYTHING they needed in order to fulfill their Destiny. GOD has a plan for them and I have no right to tell them who they should become.

I guided them into activities and they selected the activities which made their Hearts soar. Nie is an actress by birth. Is in her blood, and though a lot of people would disagree with their child following an acting career, my thought was, that is what makes her happy.

Cat is a speaker, a writer, a spinner. She might be a lawyer, she might be a writer, she might be a journalist, she might be an activist, she might even be a Politian. These are things I see in her, but never will I influence her (only guide) on who she will be in life.

Parents, it is not our job to divert our children’s dreams. Our job is to guide them, to show them their options, and ultimately, only our children can make that the decision.

Parenting with Wisdom,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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LOVE YourSelf

When you read the words in the sand, you consider it elementary. Of course You LOVE Yourself! Really? Do you really LOVE Yourself?

Look at your life, look at the choices you have made, if you were someone else, would you say you LOVE Yourself? Below are a series of questions, answer them HONESTLY, and you will get a general idea on how you feel about yourself:

When is the last time you went to the doctor for a check up?
When is the last time you did something nice for yourself?
When is the last time you put your feelings, needs, desires before someone else’s?
When was the last time you said YES to you?
When is the last time you exercised?
Do you smoke?
Do you drink excessively?
Are you doing something to your body that you know deep inside is not healthy?
Are you following your doctor’s orders?
Listen to your self-talk, what do you think about what you are saying to yourself.
How do you feel when someone give you a complement?
How do you react when someone want to do something nice to you?
Do you ever call yourself a name?
When is the last time you took a nap?

As we enter 2014, let us all choose to LOVE Ourselves!
Believe it or not, LOVING OurSelves will allow Us to LOVE others more!

On the way to Truly LOVING Myself,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Live Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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I Am Betting on Me!

I Am Betting on Me!

Worrying is literally betting against yourself!

As I forge forward with my Life Coaching practice, my main objective is to have my clients believe in themselves, LOVE themselves and choose themselves. I understand, and live that at times this is a challenge, and I am always trying to find new ways of getting the point across that WE MUST Choose Ourselves First!

When the student is ready, the teacher will come! As I looked for ways to drive my point across, the Universe placed this GREAT sign in my way, Imagine that!

“WORRYING IS LITERALLY BETTING AGAINST YOURSELF!”

Just typing it makes me smile! 🙂

I want to bet on Me! I want to be a Winner, I want to be able to live my life knowing that at the end of the day, no matter what, I am going to win regardless. GOD made me in His Image and His likeness, what else is there for me to do than to win? I have no other choice! I get it! As I feel like this about myself, I can’t help but to transfer this feeling to my clients!
What A Blessing!!!!!!!

As we begin to prepare for Our BEST year yet, 2014, I think this is the PERFECT sign to think about, meditate upon and commit to memory as we begin to think of a new opportunity to begin again.

Bet on yourself!

Betting on me,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Take your meds!

Take your meds!

Consider thinking and dwelling on your past the same as you not taking care of your health, not taking care of yourself. If you had a migraine, would you not take your meds to feel BETTER and make your migraine go away? Living in the past, is like you not taking your meds when you have a migraine and wishing and hoping to feel BETTER. Consider you dwelling in your past not taking your meds.

Have you ever met someone who was not taking care of their health? Someone who had a major illness and they were not doing what the doctor recommended them to do? How did you feel about this person’s actions? If they passed away due to not taking care of themselves and their health, how did that make you feel?

Thinking of the past is just like not taking your meds when you are sick. “It makes no sense!” The past is just a story at this point, it has no power!

Live in the present, concentrate and enjoy the moment. Take your meds and forge forward!

Taking my meds,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Listen to your child speak.

Listen to your child speak.

Being a school administrator gives me a GREAT opportunity to listen to what happens in others’ households.

I am tickled pink to hear children tell exactly what happens at home as I notice the discomfort of parents as they know that what they are hearing is inappropriate but TRUE!

Parents, if you think that what you are doing, saying or the way you are acting in front of your children would make you feel embarrassed if others hear you, or are told the story by your children, then, please, consider not doing it, saying it or acting in that manner.

Your children are learning from you!

Gone are the days that you can say to your child:
“Do as I say and not as I do!”
That command worked on us, but it will not work on our children!

You are your child’s first role model!

Working at being an example,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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I Am Strong & Very Courageous

I Am Strong & Very Courageous

You need someone in your life to speak words of encouragement to your body, your mind and your soul. Why can that person be you?

You and I are Stronger than we think! You are much stronger than you think. Anytime you are going through something that may seem uncomfortable, remember that GOD gave you everything that you needed to be victorious in the situation.

When you find yourself in situations that require your growth, remember you have the ability to speak to yourself. You have the ability to speak to your challenges. Using Joel Osteen words, don’t speak to GOD about how big your challenges/opportunities for growth are, speak to your challenges how BIG Your GOD Is!

Be Gentle with yourself, be your BEST Advocate, but MOST Importantly, remember that you are much stronger than you think!

Here is to your Strength,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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You are the MOST Important Person to YOU!

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"You are the MOST Important Person to YOU!
You are the MOST Important Person to YOU, and if you are not, I challenge you to consider making the choice for 2014 to make you the MOST Important Person in Your Life!

Remember, there are a lot of people who LOVE You and depend on You! In order for you to give them Your BEST, You MUST LOVE Yourself and be Gentle with Yourself.

You are the ONLY You You Got!

Being Gentle with Me,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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“Is Not About YOU!

Don Miguel Ruiz is one of my favorite authors. I have made the intention to become an expert in sharing his book “The Four Agreements” with as many parents, teens and individuals in my world via workshops and presentations.

When I saw this picture I was tickled pink, and decided to use this opportunity to share his second agreement. “Don’t take anything personal!”
When someone is interacting with you, there are doing it from their perspective, from their point of view, from their experiences. When they are giving you advice, they are speaking from the way they see life, from the agreements they have made to themselves.
Therefore, you MUST always remember that the words that are coming out of someone’s mouth are about them and how they see life and not about you!

Don’t take things personally because you are here to fulfilled your Life’s Purpose and ONLY you can do that. Taking things personally will delay your progress!

The actions of others are just that, the people around you are going to act according to their belief system. No, they are not trying to hurt you, they are trying to save themselves.

You are responsible for you. It is no one’s responsibility if you take things said to you positively or negatively, the way you perceive what you hear is TOTALLY up to you!
The other side of that coin? You are not responsible for how others perceive your words, actions or reactions.

I live my life, you live your life and we are all living our lives according to our experiences, according to how we perceive our world, and most importantly, we live our lives according to our perceptions, good, bad or indifferent; perception is our reality!

Bottom line: Everything that others tell you is the way they see you. When you learn that, you FREE yourself from the opinions of others!

Our attitude should be: “What you think about me, is none of my business!”

Being free from the opinions of others,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Problems = Opportunities

Problems = Opportunities

Whenever you are growing through challenges see them as Opportunities!

An opportunity to GROW!

An opportunity to say “Thank You GOD for the Strength I need to conquer this challenge!”

An opportunity to know that you are not alone, and that this too shall pass!

An opportunity to buckle down and choose to learn from the lesson!

An opportunity to ask for help!

An opportunity to share your challenge with someone who needs encouragement through their own storm.

An opportunity to know that you know you will be BETTER for this experience.

An opportunity to TRUST the process!

An opportunity to see your challenge as a lesson!

An opportunity to have FAITH!

Here is to opportunities,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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All Is Well!

All Is Well!

It is not a secret that we all have challenges that we have to face. At times we feel as if we are the ONLY ones going through a challenging experience. Some of us feel that is BEST to keep challenges inside as talking about it might make matters worse or perhaps talking about it will show lack of Faith. All that is fine, but I guarantee you that if you were to hear other peoples’s challenges you will realize that it can always be worse!

Today’s challenges will pass. It is evident. Look at your life, think back to 5 or 10 years ago. Remember that challenge? More than likely you do not. Why? It came to pass and more than likely it happened for your Highest.

Today’s challenges are here to give you bragging rights. You will surpass your challenge, you will come on top. You will end up BETTER than you were before. If you are Wise, amongst your bragging rights you will acknowledge that of you, you can do nothing and you will give GOD All the credit and the Glory.

You know that nothing is here to stay and the ONLY constant we have is change. Be Grateful as you go through your challenges and remember that after your challenge you will have bragging rights.

To your Strength,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
wwww.niecatlifecoaching.com