Category Archives: Life Coaching

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Said no child ever!

Said no child ever!

“Consequences are needed in order to create productive adults!”

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Words Have Power!

Words Have Power!

When you read this caption think of your children!

Are you happy with the manner in which you spoke to them today?

Forty-Days of a Peace Youth Symposium

peace-on-earth-islamOn Saturday, My Sorority (Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc.) had the Honor of hosting the 40 days of Peace Youth Symposium. We had over 300 individuals attend and many of them were young people.

We had a panel of experts speak to the young people. We had a pastor/professor/major of a city in Miami,  a Chief of Police for a local community college, a community college professor, a mother who after her child was murdered started  RJT Foundation, Inc.
“Women Supporting Families of Murdered Children” (please check out her website: www.rjtfoundation.com), and a pastor.

I listened as intently as I could possibly listen under the stress of thinking that I myself had to go up on stage at the end and also speak. One thing that I heard said time and time again is what I want to share here. I am sharing it because I heard this message over and over again, last week in different venues so I know I MUST share.

The main idea I heard at this symposium for our young people was,that  our thoughts create our experiences. There was one young lady who  asked how can she who lives in the inner city, who is confronted with violence at every turn, how can she have peace? How can she not retaliate when that is the world she lives in? The answer was the same. Just because you are surrounded by violence, doesn’t mean you have to be part of the violence.

I read this in a blog last week, well, this is my interpretation:

thoughts + feelings = manifestation.

I will ask parents to try this exercise for the next 40 days and reply to this blog to tell me how it worked out for you.  Consider this a Life Coaching FREE session: Reflect upon an area in your parental life you will like to change (ie: screaming excessively). Decide to think differently about screaming. Feel the feeling you will have when you are no longer in need to scream at your children. What does you not screaming look like to you? How does it feel like? What do you hear?

I can’t wait to hear from each and everyone of you that read this blog.

By the way, I decided that for the next 40 days I will not loose my Peace when it comes to my children! I am not going to get upset when they are listening to POP That Pandora and sing it, I have no clue on what they are saying and  that drives me NUTS! This is day two, so far so good!

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There are no manuals for being a Parent!

There are no manuals for being a Parent!

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Can you remember?

Can you remember?

Parents, can you remember what your mother told you when you were 6 years old? Do you remember that she told you that you could not do that! Perhaps your Dad told you that you were too little to play that game, or your sister kept calling you names. and the name calling hurt your feelings. Do you remember how it made you feel?

Now, you are an adult with children of your own. Remember those feelings when you want to tell your child that he/she can’t, or you want to call them a name or without thinking you say something that you can tell made them feel bad.

STOP!

Don’t do it!

Remember, they  won’t forget it!

My GOD is different than Your GOD!

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What makes this world go around is the fact that GOD gave us ALL free will! You can read it in the Bible. The first chapter of the bible called Genesis explains exactly what GOD was thinking when He/She/It  made Our world.

I had a discussion with a friend yesterday who thought my idea of my GOD was border line blasphemy, however I stand by my idea of GODGOD Is a Good GODGOD is not a punishing GOD. I personally think that GOD would have been BETTER off if He/She/It would have just left us as He/She/It  intended. You see, GOD didn’t mean for us to have FREE Will at first. When I told my friend that I thought they were going to choke on their spit, but it is true. Adam and Eve were doing just find, until, well you know the story! The way Adam & Eve were living was GOD‘s original intention! Seriously, read Genesis and you will see!

The point is that now we do have FREE Will! We can do what we want, when we want, with whom we want and the like. Now, here is how my GOD differs from the GOD that others serve! My GOD is not busy trying to keep score on who does what to whom! That is why we have Karma! My GOD Is Every where present! My GOD knows Everything there is to know! My GOD is a forgiving GOD! You see GOD ONLY wants our BEST! GOD is our Parent! For those of you that are Parents, think of all the good you want for your children and times that desire times a Billion; that is what GOD wants for each one of Us.

Here is another shocker about My GOD! There is a piece of GOD in each one of us waiting for us to bring Him/Her/It  into expression! You decide whether you will allow GOD to shine through you. How? By your actions and reactions!

Another shocker! GOD (My GOD) is not a punishing GOD! My GOD is a GREAT GOD! My GOD does not keep score of your deeds. There is no such thing as Heaven and Hell as a place that you go to when you die. In My World, Heaven and Hell are RIGHT HERE! Now, I know some of you have already deleted this post from your lives, but here me out those of you that are still here. Heaven and Hell are right here! Heaven and Hell are states of mind that we decide we want to enjoy. Sure bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people, but I will assure you  that the GOD I serve is not making decisions on who gets what! GOD Is a GREAT GOD!

There are certain experiences we all have to go through in order to become the person we were Destined to become! It ALL depends upon how you look at the experiences that you are going through right now!

Example, I have been an Assistant Principal (AP) for 15 years now, most AP’s that went through the Principal Academy with me are now Principals. My choice, heaven or hell.

Hell – I could be bitter and become a horrible worker with no ethics because the power that are in place are over looking me.

Heaven (my choice) – my time will come, I will be a Principal, I will be an Exceptional Instructional Leader. “Everything happens for a reason & everything happens for my Highest good!  In GOD‘s time! GOD‘s knows BEST, remember GOD is ALL knowing. In the meantime, I do my BEST everyday, I am Grateful for my job, and I know, that I know that my time will come and when it does, I will be the BEST Principal Ever! That is Heaven!

The GOD I serve is more than likely different than your GOD! My GOD is not a punishing GOD and My GOD  is waiting for you to bring Him/Her/It into expression! Trust me, Your Life will be BETTER for it!

It is a cliche but it is true!

It is a cliche but it is true!.

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It is a cliche but it is true!

It is a cliche but it is true!

Parents, your children learn what they see you do, and what they hear you say to others, not what you tell them to do or to say!
When I have parent conferences I am often amazed how parents are shocked that their children lie! First, they tell me, my son/daughter NEVER lie!m After I reveal my investigation and my witnesses they come to the realization, that their child has lied. Often, they cry, don’t understand how it happened and sometimes, they just think I am the evil one and I have orchestrated this plot to get their child in trouble, because of course I don’t like their child and I have it in for them! This one happens more than I care to discuss.
Here is the thing parents, your children are looking at you very carefully!!! I just can stress this enough! They are watching you, they are listening to you, they are hanging on to your every ACTION. If you are lying to Auntie Ursula about why you didn’t call her, if you are lying to the bill collector about the payment being in the mail, if you are lying to the cashier that you don’t have enough money, if you are lying to the homeless person asking you for money on your way to the mall, guess what? Your baby girl/baby boy is internalizing ALL of that!
Stop lying in front of your children! Period!

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Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Parents: This is how we create productive adults!

Parenting Teenagers in 2013

If you have a teenager in 2013 consider listening as you go back to your teenage years. Think of  when you or a teenage friend of yours experienced that situation (this could be challenging as we didn’t have as many challenges as our children do today), and respond with the Wisdom the situation taught you without judging.