When You choose to walk your world in Peace, you realize that ONLY Peaceful situations come your way!
If there is a disruption in your day, as you choose Peace, the situation will resolve itself, go away, or you will have every tool necessary to demonstrate and keep your Peace!
Peace is the key to our well-being!
Peace begins with Me,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
Don Miguel Ruiz is one of my favorite authors. I have made the intention to become an expert in sharing his book “The Four Agreements” with as many parents, teens and individuals in my world via workshops and presentations.
When I saw this picture I was tickled pink, and decided to use this opportunity to share his second agreement. “Don’t take anything personal!”
When someone is interacting with you, there are doing it from their perspective, from their point of view, from their experiences. When they are giving you advice, they are speaking from the way they see life, from the agreements they have made to themselves.
Therefore, you MUST always remember that the words that are coming out of someone’s mouth are about them and how they see life and not about you!
Don’t take things personally because you are here to fulfilled your Life’s Purpose and ONLY you can do that. Taking things personally will delay your progress!
The actions of others are just that, the people around you are going to act according to their belief system. No, they are not trying to hurt you, they are trying to save themselves.
You are responsible for you. It is no one’s responsibility if you take things said to you positively or negatively, the way you perceive what you hear is TOTALLY up to you!
The other side of that coin? You are not responsible for how others perceive your words, actions or reactions.
I live my life, you live your life and we are all living our lives according to our experiences, according to how we perceive our world, and most importantly, we live our lives according to our perceptions, good, bad or indifferent; perception is our reality!
Bottom line: Everything that others tell you is the way they see you. When you learn that, you FREE yourself from the opinions of others!
Our attitude should be: “What you think about me, is none of my business!”
Being free from the opinions of others,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
I believe that what we call ourselves has a direct correlation on what we call our children!”
As an educator for the last 25 years I have come across many children who had very low self-esteem. Once I met their parents I realized that there was a direct correlation on how parents view themselves and how they view their children.
Most parents want more for their children than what they have experienced in their lives. There is however, a vital ingredient that some parents miss. Our children listen to us very carefully; when our children are toddlers they learn to speak by the words we use. What we attach to “I Am” becomes what our children will learn. When we say, I Am sick, I Am broke, I Am tired, those are the beginning of our children’s road map to who they are.
We need to choose differently! We need to add positive words to our “I Am.” We are doing this for our children and for ourselves. I am Victorious, I am Faithful, I am Peaceful, I Am Honest, I Am GOD in action, I am wise with my money, I am happy, I am LOVED, I am appreciated, I am right where I need to be. When our children hear those types of words attached to our I Am, they have no choice than to imitate these words.
When we speak to our children, we MUST never say bad words. Yes, I know life gets in the way and life becomes a challenge, but life is a one day at a time journey, one moment at a time. There is no need to curse at our children. That goes against the reason why they are here. Our children are here so that we can assists them in becoming the BEST they can be. That is our duty.
Do not call your children names! Treat your children as the biblical characters treated their children. We are to Bless our children! We are to Bestowed our GREAT words and ideas upon our children.
Having children is one of the Biggest Blessings GOD has Bestowed upon us. We MUST make sure we raise our children with respect, LOVE and a BIG dose of Self-Esteem.
Parenting is a Blessing,
Coach Arthur
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
I DECLARE I will use my expertise, actions and words to Cheer and Bless My Clients. I will listen intently as My Clients answer all the questions I ask so that I can write a vision statement for Them that will bring them Favor in Their Life, World & Affairs.
I will help them call out their Greatness by showing them their innate ability to be “Proud of Themselves, to LOVE Themselves, to BELIEVE in Themselves and Their Dreams. I will motivate Them and assist Them in navigating Their True Self by reminding Them how Amazing, Talented, and Beautiful They are. I will partner with My Clients in agreement that They will do GREAT things in Life.
This is My Declaration to ALL of My Clients!
Adopted from Joel Osteen “I Declare 31 Promises to Speak over Your Life” Day 14
If you want me to partner with you so that you can manifest a BETTER Life, contact me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching Session!
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
I have been a Helicopter Mom for the last 23 years.
What is a Helicopter Mom You ask?
A Helicopter Mom is a Mom who doesn’t leave their Child’s Life to chance. A Mom who knows what is going on with Her Child and intervenes when ever necessary for the betterment of Her Child.
Last year I was told that as my Baby Girl turned 18 that I had to let go! I did! What do I think of that move? Mistake!!!!!!!!
I am in total disagreement with stopping the Helicopter Mom Life style. I disagree 100% with the fact that the colleges do not allow parents to know anything about Their Child’s college information but MUST write the checks.
Here is my rationale, if We continue being a Helicopter Parent until Our Children graduate college the possibility of them returning home decreases tremendously.
That’s my take on it. What do you think?
Sincerely,
Helicopter Mom
Coach Arthur
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
I never understood why as a student of Metaphysics I was always told that if I wanted to know what I was thinking all I had to do is look at what was happening in my life! Every time Rev Mary (Universal Truth Center) said that I use to suck my teeth internally. How did I create such a mess?
Well, reading the book “Ask and it is Given Learning to Manifest Your Destiny” by Esther and Jerry Hicks have really sent me on my way. You can actually think your way to the life you want. Really, you can!
If you don’t like what is happening in your world, change it, if you can’t change it, then, change your attitude about it. Complaining should not be a part of your life anymore. Don’t complain, don’t even explain. Change your mind, change your thoughts and your life will change.
We sometimes seem to put our LOVE Ones last on our Priority list, specially Our Children! We do not me to do so, it just happens and time just passes!”
It seems like it was just yesterday that I gave birth in 1994 and just a couple of years ago that it was 1990. Nie will be 23 years old next month and Cat will be 19 years old in December.
Where did the time go?
It is GREAT to hear them reminisce about their experiences growing up. Sometimes I am shocked of their perception of their childhood. What I enjoy most is their accounts of times that we had fun, or that made them laugh!
Here is what I learned from my experience of raising NieCat. Children will tell their growing up story through their eyes. In order to make sure your children’s growing up story is one that you enjoy hearing:
1. Put them first!
2. keep your word!
3. Make a sacrifice, give them your time and your talents because at the end of the day, your children are your legacy.
If you need assistance on how to make time for your children, contact me for a FREE 20 minute Parent Life Coaching session, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com.
Happy Parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
Teenagers now a days look totally different than we did when we were teenagers (I was a teenager in the 80’s). My Father’s worth issues with me was the fact that I wanted to wear mini-skirts to school, I want to an ALL girl school for goodness sake!!!!! My experience as the Mom of a Teenager is totally different, I have to deal with tattoos, piercing, jeans with holes and other issues I never thought of wearing or doing to my body back in the days.
Sometimes our Teenagers bring friends over who are EXTREMELY interesting looking to say the least! As a parent, what you want to do is tell your child, “stop hanging out with that weird looking kid!” However, lesson number 3 teaches a different way of looking at it.
You need to approach every friend your teenage has with an open mind. Talk to them, ask questions, see where their head is. Open your mind and over look the green, purple, blue hear. Ignore the piercing in the eyebrow, nose, lip and the many, many, many tattles ALL over the place. Listen with your heart.
What are you listening for, is the kid well-mannered? Parents are always telling me that the Cat in NieCat is such a well mannered young lady, and inside I smile and I always say “Thank You GOD! It would be sad if a parent didn’t give her a chance because she has a piercing in her nose (be still my heart).
Listen to what your Teenager say about Her/His Friends. Remember, they consider their friends an extension of them. Thread lightly! Don’t be judgmental. Don’t criticize!!!!!!
If your inner self tells you to address an issue of drugs, skipping school, cursing in your house (a Teenager has to be extremely bold to do this), then, you MUST address this issue with your teenager. If you suspect drugs, you will need more than just a Life Coach, you will need therapy and counseling.
Keep in mind:
1. Being Honest and Candid with your Teenager is the way to go.
2. No judgment!
3 .Remember when you were a teenager!
4. Seek outside help if the situation is one you can’t handle and if there are drugs involved in the friendship.
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, http://www.niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
“Open Your Mind before You open your mouth!” 🙂
Happy Parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
Last week I took My Daughter, The Cat in NieCat to her Freshman College Orientation. There we were parents and children together. As I looked around, there was one thing “visibly” evident in this orientation. About 90% of these Freshmen were on their cellular devices, including Cat.
When they were talking about financial aid, I couldn’t take it anymore and I asked her to put her phone down and I swear she looked like I asked her to go to bed without dinner or walk home from the orientation.
This is the topic of our 2nd Lesson, according to http://www.webmd.com/parenting/teen the actual devices that keep our teens connected are the same devices that keep them away from us – their families. The article actually suggests that taking our teens’ electronic devices can be considered unkind. “Being networked with their friends is critical to most teens,” says Dr. Stuart Goldman, director of psychiatric education at Children’s Hospital in Boston.
As a Teen Life Coach, I agree with the article in the sense that if your teen is doing the right thing, i.e. school (their main responsibility), chores, being respectful, and most importantly not being withdrawn from the family, then, yes, the electronic devices should stay.
However, if your teen is not following through with your expectations, then, I suggest that taking away the cellular device, lap top, games and anything else they consider their life lines is perfectly acceptable.
Suggestions:
1. Have your teen pay for their cellular phone.
2. Phones must be turned off at least an hour before bed time.
3. No computer in the room.
4. Place parents control on the computers and laptops.
5. No phone usage during dinner time or family time.
6. No phone usage during the drive home from school.
The cellular phone is a battle that us teen parents should really not participate in unless is absolutely necessary. Unless of course our rules/regulations/expectations are not being met.
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Happy Navigating the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
We are all busy, and our jobs take us away from our families more than we care to share. We MUST make the decision to make our Children Our Priority when it comes to our time.
It is a challenge being a school administrator, a life coach and a Mom/Abuelita (GrandMom). Sometimes when I get home ALL I want to do is lay down and take a nap, however, I know that 1990 and 1994 seem like it was just yesterday and my girls are young women now. This all happened very quickly, but I am grateful that I h ad the Wisdom to make times for My Girls.
We MUST find time to spend with Our Children, what I do? Well, Honestly, it was not my idea, it just so happened this suggestion comes from the fact that My Girls ALWAYS followed me around when I got home. The Girls use to and still do lay in my bed as I am resting. We are talking, and sharing and I am resting! The BEST of both worlds.
Choose to find a way to spend time with Your Children regardless of what your day looks like.
Suggestion:
1. Have a game night.
2. Have a conversation hour while you cook, rest, use the bathroom (this happens to me ALL the time), or do your house chores.
3. Use driving time as sharing time.
The idea is to make your children KNOW that you really care and you will find time for Them!
Happy time sharing,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
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