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Ways to avoid loosing it!

Ways to avoid loosing it!

When you know BETTER you do BETTER!
The MOST important job we have as parents does not come with directions. It is no secret that parenting is by far one of the most difficult jobs a parent will encounter. Luckily, nowadays there are may venus and outlets one can utilize to assist with child-rearing!
One of the strategies can be hiring a therapist, looking on line for helpful parenting websites, reading books about parenting or hiring someone like myself, a life coach for parents and teens.
To this end, I am always reading and I found a very interesting article in onetoughjob.org which shared some very interesting strategies for parents who experienced their children pushing their buttons. These are strategies I have recommended to my own clients and they are are worth sharing.

The same child who have brought you joy, love and proud moments can also make you feel as if you are going to loose it, when you experience these moments, there are strategies which will assist in making the situation better or assist in moving forward.
Some strategies to use when you are loosing it:

Forgive Yourself:
If in fact you have lost your temper with your child, please, forgive yourself! That is the first step to fix the problem. Once you have forgiven yourself, then, you can have a conversation with your child and apologize. Verbalize your feelings and admit that you did not handle the situation properly. Believe it or not, this will be a life lesson for your child.

You are not alone:
You are not the first parent who have lost your temper or have worked very hard not to loose your temper. Unfortunately we as a society do not speak about our weakness, but we all have them. You are not the first parent whose child has done something wrong or embarrassing. Do not judge yourself so harshly, Remember, your child is here to go through his/her own journey. Be gently with yourself!

View their actions as a way to communicate:
At times our children do not know how to express their emotions. At times, their actions appear to be bizarre to us, but if you open the lines of communication you will see there is a reason for the behavior. You just need to ask without judgment! Try your BEST to always find out where your child is coming from. Ask a lot of why questions, and be patient enough to wait for the answer.

Seek Support:
There are many parenting groups that will support you through tough times, hiring a Life Coach for parents like myself will also benefit your journey into better parenting. Having someone who can relieve you of your parenting duties while you take a deep breath or go out is also an excellent idea.

Understand your response:
Sometimes it is difficult to stop and count before reacting. Before spanking, yelling, calling your child names, Stop! Stop and think of what is going to happen next. Do a quick self assessment and take a deep breath. Once that angry moment has passed, you will be able to think and speak more clearly. Remember, your intention is NOT to hurt your child’s feelings!

Be on the same page with your Co-Parent:
A child must feel as routines are a way of life. Both parents must demonstrate a united front when it comes to parenting. Your child will see if there are any fragile areas in your parenting and will divide and conquer.

Be consistent:
This is not one of the strategies in the article, but I believe that being consistent will allow you to be a better parent. If you say it, then, you must do it! It is important that your child knows, understands, but most importantly believe that if you say it, you mean it!

If you need someone who will assist you with your parenting skills or your teens’ ability to handle life effectively, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

Happy Parenting,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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LOVE begins at home!

LOVE begins at home!

How many times have you caught yourself being nicer to strangers than your own family?
As I coach teens one of the main concerns teens have is how they are treated by their parents compared to others.
I often have to remind parents that their teens were once their toddlers. Just because they are now weird and know it all doesn’t mean they do not need our LOVE and attention.
Sometimes is the way we speak to our teens that makes the difference. Our tone can make a difficult situation better or more challenging.
Consider bringing a soft tone to your voice, consider having Lovely thoughts when you call your teen’s name, consider treating you teen as if they were a guest in your home, but most importantly remember what it was to be a teen.

Teens need LOVE too,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
wwww.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

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Worrying is literally betting against Yourself!

Worrying is literally betting against Yourself!

Worrying is a total waste of emotion!
Regardless if you worry or not, the outcome will be whatever the outcome is going to be.
Your thoughts and your feelings have the power to re-direct your life.

If you are going to think, might as well think of thoughts in your favor. See yourself as GOD sees you, Whole, Healthy and Complete. When you begin a new endeavor, see yourself being successful with it and at it. LOVE Yourself enough to ONLY wish you well! When you have trials and tribulations, think grateful thoughts for the lessons that the situation will bestow upon you!!

Bet on yourself!
LOVE Yourself!
Consider thoughts a seed; plant seeds that will give you the fruit that you are longing for.

Happy Thoughts,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoach.com

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“I Bestow Blessings Upon You!

As I study the teachings of Joel Osteen I am now convinced that I have the Power to Bless others as well as myself.

Reading the 11th day of Joel Osteen’s daily word, it inspired me to bestow a Blessing upon ALL of my readers:

I Declare Abundant Blessings Upon You and Yours. GOD Blessed you with Faith, Peace and Understanding! As you walk through the day
I Bless you with the Faith you need in order to encounter your day Victoriously.
I Bless you with Peace so that you can walk through your day knowing that ALL IS Well!
I Bless you with understanding to convince yourself that no matter what you see you will be the last one standing.

I Bless You with the realization that as long as you put GOD First, you have Faith and Understanding you can have the Desires of your Heart!

Blessings!
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
wwww.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com

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Parenting Teens – to be their friend or to be their parent

Parenting Teens -  to be their friend or to be their parent

On Monday, January 6, 2014 I was part of a radio interview in Tallahassee, Florida and Valdosta, Georgia.
I was featured as a Certified Professional Life Coach answering questions about teen parenting, and addressing the question of being a friend to your teens.

Please listen & enjoy!

Click here to listen…

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach

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You

You

I am so extremely Grateful for this post! It was sent to me by Brandye Dague. The objective was to do something uplifting for me. As I read it, I became empowered and I decided to share it with ALL my clients and readers. Please pay it forward and share these words with someone!

Let me tell you something about YOU.

YOU can do anything you want.

YOU are in control.

YOU can achieve as much success as you want to.

YOU can and will pick yourself up when life knocks you down.

I BELIEVE IN YOU.

That’s all I wanted to say,

You see, Your success, Your Prosperity, Your Health, Your Peace, it all starts with YOU.

YOU can make a difference!

Blessing You,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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Change Is Good!!

Hang in there!

Many times my clients and I come up with GREAT plans to start a new. Plans that will allow them to leave the behaviors that were not wanted and adopt new behaviors.

The challenge?
Other people have a hard time realizing that people can change, that change is possible.

It is truly a challenge when someone changes, but the people around them, still treat them as if they are still in the past. Change is good and those who cannot deal with the fact that you are in the process of changing do not belong in your change/life process.

Celebrate your willingness to change,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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“I Am a Healer!”

Adapted from Joel Osteen I Declare – 31 Promises to Speak Over Your Life – Day 16

As I am Blessed with the growth of my Life Coaching practice, I consider and approach my clients as a Healer.

I Declare that I will be a Healer to my clients. I will be sensitive to their needs. The objective of me writing their vision statements will be to lift them if they have fallen, restore them to their original whole, healthy and complete beings and to encourage them to see themselves as GOD sees them.

I will speak and listen to them with compassion and kind words. I will speak miracles into my clients’ life. I will become a miracle by showing my clients’ GOD’s LOVE & Mercy.

This is my Declaration to My Clients!

Grateful for Coachable Clients,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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If you want change, You MUST change

If you want change, You MUST change

In my Life Coaching practice I have experienced many parents coming to me asking to help with their teenagers and their attitudes. The first question I ask? How do you react when the attitude begins? The answers to this question are very informative!

As Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience, we tend to forget (the reason why we suffer) that we have Power & Dominion over our actions and reactions. I often have to write my clients vision statements reminding them of this very important point.
What does that mean?
That we have control on how we react to situations that are less than ideal with an attitude that can defuse the situation and make things BETTER.

When our teenagers give us attitude (not disrespect), the BEST way to handle it is pointing out the behavior to them, but most importantly, we MUST make sure that our attitude does not compare to theirs. The ONLY way we can teach our teenage children how to BEST handle their emotions, actions and reactions is by keeping our cool and having a handle on our words and deeds when we interact with them. We MUST become the change we want to see in our households!

Happy parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com

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What are you saying?

What are you saying?

What are you saying to your children?
What type of words are you using when you are speaking to them?

My Dearest Father taught me many lessons in life. there are two very important lessons which helped me parent effectively. The first lesson he taught me was how to speak to my children. I lived with my Dad and my Step-Mother from the time I was 12 years old until the time I left to college at 18. In ALL those years living in Brooklyn, New York I NEVER, EVER heard my Dad say a bad word, NEVER! No matter how angry he was (I really don’t remember My Dad being angry to be honest with you), he never cursed, and he definitely never used bad words when speaking to my step-brother, step-sisters or myself never.

The second lesson I learned from my Dad is NEVER to speak negatively to my children’s dreams. No matter what I told him he never put the idea down and he never criticized the idea. He did have a lot of wisdom and shared the pros and the cons about my ideas, but ultimately I made the decisions.

When we speak to our children, there is no need to use bad words, there is no need to put our children down.

Be kind to your children, remember, The manner in which you are speaking to your children is teaching them a couple of things, they are learning from you how to treat others, how to speak to others, and how worthy they are but most importantly, they are learning from you how to be parents one day!

Happy Parenting,

Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com