Parents, if after reading this sign, you feel as if you have a teenager who feels like this at home, I can help!!!!!
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Helping Navigate the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
July 15, 2013 in assistance, Children, consultation, daily word, empowering, Father, God, inspiration, Laugh, Life, mother, motherhood, support, Uncategorized
Tagged consequences, rules, Teenagers, teens
Last week I took My Daughter, The Cat in NieCat to her Freshman College Orientation. There we were parents and children together. As I looked around, there was one thing “visibly” evident in this orientation. About 90% of these Freshmen were on their cellular devices, including Cat.
When they were talking about financial aid, I couldn’t take it anymore and I asked her to put her phone down and I swear she looked like I asked her to go to bed without dinner or walk home from the orientation.
This is the topic of our 2nd Lesson, according to http://www.webmd.com/parenting/teen the actual devices that keep our teens connected are the same devices that keep them away from us – their families. The article actually suggests that taking our teens’ electronic devices can be considered unkind. “Being networked with their friends is critical to most teens,” says Dr. Stuart Goldman, director of psychiatric education at Children’s Hospital in Boston.
As a Teen Life Coach, I agree with the article in the sense that if your teen is doing the right thing, i.e. school (their main responsibility), chores, being respectful, and most importantly not being withdrawn from the family, then, yes, the electronic devices should stay.
However, if your teen is not following through with your expectations, then, I suggest that taking away the cellular device, lap top, games and anything else they consider their life lines is perfectly acceptable.
Suggestions:
1. Have your teen pay for their cellular phone.
2. Phones must be turned off at least an hour before bed time.
3. No computer in the room.
4. Place parents control on the computers and laptops.
5. No phone usage during dinner time or family time.
6. No phone usage during the drive home from school.
The cellular phone is a battle that us teen parents should really not participate in unless is absolutely necessary. Unless of course our rules/regulations/expectations are not being met.
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Happy Navigating the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
We are all busy, and our jobs take us away from our families more than we care to share. We MUST make the decision to make our Children Our Priority when it comes to our time.
It is a challenge being a school administrator, a life coach and a Mom/Abuelita (GrandMom). Sometimes when I get home ALL I want to do is lay down and take a nap, however, I know that 1990 and 1994 seem like it was just yesterday and my girls are young women now. This all happened very quickly, but I am grateful that I h ad the Wisdom to make times for My Girls.
We MUST find time to spend with Our Children, what I do? Well, Honestly, it was not my idea, it just so happened this suggestion comes from the fact that My Girls ALWAYS followed me around when I got home. The Girls use to and still do lay in my bed as I am resting. We are talking, and sharing and I am resting! The BEST of both worlds.
Choose to find a way to spend time with Your Children regardless of what your day looks like.
Suggestion:
1. Have a game night.
2. Have a conversation hour while you cook, rest, use the bathroom (this happens to me ALL the time), or do your house chores.
3. Use driving time as sharing time.
The idea is to make your children KNOW that you really care and you will find time for Them!
Happy time sharing,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
For those of us who have experienced teen years and have survived, we must be honest and say that having a teenagers is no walk in the park. As a matter of fact, Dr. Stuart Goldman, director of psychiatric education at Children’s Hospital in Boston says, “Adolescence is a time of rapid change for kids both physically and cognitively,” he explains. “It’s the task of the teenager to fire their parents and then re-hire them years later, but as consultants rather than managers.”
All Teenage parents MUST come to terms with the fact that your relationship with your teen will not be the same as it was pre-teen years. All of a sudden, you as a parent will know nothing, your word will mean nothing and friends will come to be the BEST advisors in the world. One of your teenager’s job is to have conflict with you! With that being said there are a couple of rules that MUST be put in place to navigate this time that has the ingredients of potentially becoming a challenging time.
Remember the time when your child wanted you to come along on the field trips and the class parties? Well, as teens, those times will be no more. Internally, your teen knows they need you however, they can’t seem to understand what they are feeling.
That is when you have to be the BIGGER person, and show LOVE!
Be there for your Teen.
Whenever they are ready to talk, you have to be there.
You can’t act as they do or this will make matters worse.
This type of behavior will begin getting better by 16 or 17.
You MuST be patient, and supportive!
Your teen will come to you when ready, and your job is to be there with open arms.
Whenever your teen wants to talk, you must be there with no-judgment! Challenging, but doable!
Having a teen that is mean or says bad words to you or tells you she/he hates you is another ball of wax!
Other professionals will tell you to handle this with tolerance, however, I take another approach!
You are the PARENT!
You are the ruler of your house!
You MUST be very stern in handling this behavior!
It MUST be understood that this is not acceptable in your home!!!!!
Your child can’t curse at you!
Your Child can’t scream at you!
This is unacceptable behavior and MUST be stopped!
Saying bad words in front of you is something that you can’t tolerate!
RESPECT MUST be evident at ALL times!
This means that you also have to respect your Teen!
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Happy Navigating the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
Humanity is the Power of GOD in action.
GOD has given humankind the Power to
form and shape our lives. The gifts given to
form and shape our lives. The gifts given to
Humanity are the conscious Power of thought
and of the spoken word. Because we have been
given such Great Power, we must use it lovingly
and wisely.
The Power to think makes us free agents.
We shape our lives in the image-likeness of our
Thinking. Our thoughts and feelings express as experiences because thoughts are things.
We can speak the word and align ourselves
with our Christ-nature. Our words are filled
with Power to accomplish the intent with
Which they are spoken.
We can use our words to build our lives.
We must consciously speak only things we
Want to see expressed.
If you want to learn to use your words
to create your ideal life, contact me for your
FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session, my
email address is niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com
Happy Thinking,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
Daily Inspiration for Better Living
June 11, 2013
Page 17
Universal Foundation for Better Living, Inc. Publication
We grow up thinking that when we forgive someone who does us wrong, we are benefiting them.
The Bible says that we MUST forgive 7 times 70.
I propose another way of thinking!
We MUST forgive not for the other person!
We MUST forgive others for our own wellbeing!
We are the ones who benefit when We forgive others!
Forgive others for Yourself!
If you want to learn how to forgive for your own sake email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching Session, http://www.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com
There is Peace in Forgiveness,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
May 27, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, help, inspiration, motivation, Spiritual, support, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged bible, forgive, forgiveness, Life, Life Coach, Life coaching, peace, wisdom
The Law of Attraction is that like begets like.
Your dominant thoughts and words, whether
positive or negative, will attract corresponding
experiences into your life. So be careful!
Do not allow your thoughts and words to dwell in
places you would rather not go.
Another way of stating the Law of Attraction is:
“As within, so without.”
Renowned New Thought teacher Emmett Fox said
that is it impossible to draw from the spiritual realm anything for which we have not first established a
mental equivalent.
If you don’t want to spill coffee on your new blouse or tie, for example, don’t spend all morning thinking or saying, “I hope I don’t spill…..”
Focus instead on something you do want.
But never desire something that belongs to someone else.
Want ONLY what is yours by right of consciousness. It will prove much more gratifying in the end.
“And thou shalt overlay it with pure gold,
within and without….
Exodus 25:11
Daily Inspiration for a Better Living
May, 2013
Wednesday, May 22, 2013, page 29
A Publication of The Universal Foundation for Better Living, Inc.
If you want to learn how to apply the Law of Attraction in your life, world and affairs, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching Session, http://www.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com
Happy Attracting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoach.com
May 23, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, help, inspiration, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, motivation, Parenting, support, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged bible, daily word, Emmet Fox, exodus, GOD, mental equivalent, metaphysical, metaphysics, new thought, Spiritual, spirituality, Thoughts, verse, wisdom
There’s a difference between knowing the path and walking the path.
– the character Morpheus in the movie The Matrix
There is a great difference between knowing and understanding:
you can know a lot about something and not really understand it.
– Charles Kettering
Know the power of perspective.
Be a passionate observer of life.
See the events, feel the emotions,
and recognize the difference.
– Jonathan Lockwood Huie
May the world be kind to you,
and may your own thoughts be gentle upon yourself.
– Jonathan
Jonathan Lockwood Huie
jlh @ sail7 .com
Daily Inspiration – Daily Quote
When we were growing up, our adult care takers felt that children should be seeing and not heard. Many of us grew up knowing that getting into a conversation when grown ups were talking was a recipe for disaster in our part. Giving our opinion when we were being reprimanded was a serious no-no in our days.
However, now in 2013 we know that allowing our Children to express themselves is part of the norm. Clearly there should be boundaries as our children interact with others as well as ourselves. Your Child should ALWAYS address you with RESPECT! With that said, the bottom line is that our Children have a purpose.
As a Life Coach I recommend my parent clients to find it within themselves to consider a couple of thoughts:
1. Your Child is here for a Reason. Your Child’s Life has a Purpose.
2. Your Child has a story to tell. No matter the situation, even if you know what your course of action is going to be, allow your Child the opportunity to share their story. This will allow you to see how much insight your Child has gained from the particular situation in question. This will also allow you to be able to reflect in the conversation and determine how you can do better handling the situation the next time.
3. Every Child has a dream in their Heart. Listen to their dream and NEVER destroy their idea. GOD has placed dreams within each one of us and the dream is equipped with everything needed to bring it into fruition. Dare to Believe Your Child’s dreams and aspiration for themselves and support them.
4. You Child’s voice matters! Listen! Listen to understand! Choose to understand, and then, to be understood (Steve Covey).
5. Your Child was Born for Greatness! You need to verbalize this Truth to your child as often as Possible. “Your Child was Born to have an IMPACT in this world.
If you want a game plan on how to put these strategies into practice, email me: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching Session.
Happy Purposeful Parenting,
Coach Arthur, Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
May 19, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, consultation, empowering, Father, God, help, inspiration, Metaphysics, mother, motherhood, motivation, support, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged Life, Life Coach, Life coaching, parent life coaching, parenthood, parenting, parents, teens, wisdom
Sweet smile on MIMIs face as you sleep the pain away,
Resting in God’s arms now, although in the ground your body lay.
He needed another angel in the Heavenly choir and that’s why you had to go.
As you promised, you are still with us watching over US.
I never would have imagined the end would be like this, me comforting you.
Holding your hand, telling you not to worry was not an easy thing for me to do.
And even in your weakest hour you tried to comfort me too, caressing my face, and calming my soul as only a mother can soothe.
You have always been there through the thick and the thin no matter what I’ve done, unconditionally your love never wavering.
When I told you of the mistakes I made and all the times people saw me fall , You simply nodded and gently replied ‘so have we all’.
The key to success is learning from the past; ensuring a brighter future is now the present task.
A pillar of strength even until the end, fighting all life’s battles, knowing it’s triumphantly you would win. Pushing me to be the best that you know I can be, reminding me to keep the faith and allow God to lead me.
Knowing it’s through Christ that I can do all things
And as He never makes a mistake I will come through victoriously.
I miss you more with each and every passing day MIMA, than these words could ever say.
The pain in my heart is from one unimaginable day
After I cried all that I could; my eyes still shed countless more tears, and when I try to sleep, I can’t because all I can think about and continue to ask my self is WHY and HOW COME you didn’t let me know you were about to leave ME!!?
My load feels so heavy I am not sure I will last.
Silly though I may be I am afraid of life now that you’re gone because I’ve always had a mother.
And MIMI, what about my son, brother, dad and lil baby?
I wish you could have stayed just a little while longer, there’s so much left to do. I wonder if I prayed hard enough and if so, maybe you would have stayed longer!
Finding relief in knowing I will see you again someday soon. Remembering all you taught me as my soul continue to grief. I will walk in the footsteps you have walked before me, seeing the path you walked led you, MIMI, straight into victory.
So as you sleep MIMI, in the cradle of the Lord,
I am reassured of GOD’s promises in His Holy Word.
I dream of the day when Heaven’s gates open to receive me and with your smiling face and loving eyes, we will be reunited with open arms you shall receive me with an ever lasting love.
” I love you for Always,
I Love you Forever,
As Long As I’m Living,
My Mimi You’ll BE!!”
Pre-K SPED 3 and 4 Year-old Teacher
Hialeah, Florida
May 14, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, God, help, inspiration, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, motivation, Spiritual, support, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom
Tagged celebrating life, death, grief, letter to mother, letter to my death mother, Life, mothers' day, strategy to deal with grief
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