Monthly Archives: January 2013

My GOD is different than Your GOD!

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What makes this world go around is the fact that GOD gave us ALL free will! You can read it in the Bible. The first chapter of the bible called Genesis explains exactly what GOD was thinking when He/She/It  made Our world.

I had a discussion with a friend yesterday who thought my idea of my GOD was border line blasphemy, however I stand by my idea of GODGOD Is a Good GODGOD is not a punishing GOD. I personally think that GOD would have been BETTER off if He/She/It would have just left us as He/She/It  intended. You see, GOD didn’t mean for us to have FREE Will at first. When I told my friend that I thought they were going to choke on their spit, but it is true. Adam and Eve were doing just find, until, well you know the story! The way Adam & Eve were living was GOD‘s original intention! Seriously, read Genesis and you will see!

The point is that now we do have FREE Will! We can do what we want, when we want, with whom we want and the like. Now, here is how my GOD differs from the GOD that others serve! My GOD is not busy trying to keep score on who does what to whom! That is why we have Karma! My GOD Is Every where present! My GOD knows Everything there is to know! My GOD is a forgiving GOD! You see GOD ONLY wants our BEST! GOD is our Parent! For those of you that are Parents, think of all the good you want for your children and times that desire times a Billion; that is what GOD wants for each one of Us.

Here is another shocker about My GOD! There is a piece of GOD in each one of us waiting for us to bring Him/Her/It  into expression! You decide whether you will allow GOD to shine through you. How? By your actions and reactions!

Another shocker! GOD (My GOD) is not a punishing GOD! My GOD is a GREAT GOD! My GOD does not keep score of your deeds. There is no such thing as Heaven and Hell as a place that you go to when you die. In My World, Heaven and Hell are RIGHT HERE! Now, I know some of you have already deleted this post from your lives, but here me out those of you that are still here. Heaven and Hell are right here! Heaven and Hell are states of mind that we decide we want to enjoy. Sure bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people, but I will assure you  that the GOD I serve is not making decisions on who gets what! GOD Is a GREAT GOD!

There are certain experiences we all have to go through in order to become the person we were Destined to become! It ALL depends upon how you look at the experiences that you are going through right now!

Example, I have been an Assistant Principal (AP) for 15 years now, most AP’s that went through the Principal Academy with me are now Principals. My choice, heaven or hell.

Hell – I could be bitter and become a horrible worker with no ethics because the power that are in place are over looking me.

Heaven (my choice) – my time will come, I will be a Principal, I will be an Exceptional Instructional Leader. “Everything happens for a reason & everything happens for my Highest good!  In GOD‘s time! GOD‘s knows BEST, remember GOD is ALL knowing. In the meantime, I do my BEST everyday, I am Grateful for my job, and I know, that I know that my time will come and when it does, I will be the BEST Principal Ever! That is Heaven!

The GOD I serve is more than likely different than your GOD! My GOD is not a punishing GOD and My GOD  is waiting for you to bring Him/Her/It into expression! Trust me, Your Life will be BETTER for it!

It is a cliche but it is true!

It is a cliche but it is true!.

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It is a cliche but it is true!

It is a cliche but it is true!

Parents, your children learn what they see you do, and what they hear you say to others, not what you tell them to do or to say!
When I have parent conferences I am often amazed how parents are shocked that their children lie! First, they tell me, my son/daughter NEVER lie!m After I reveal my investigation and my witnesses they come to the realization, that their child has lied. Often, they cry, don’t understand how it happened and sometimes, they just think I am the evil one and I have orchestrated this plot to get their child in trouble, because of course I don’t like their child and I have it in for them! This one happens more than I care to discuss.
Here is the thing parents, your children are looking at you very carefully!!! I just can stress this enough! They are watching you, they are listening to you, they are hanging on to your every ACTION. If you are lying to Auntie Ursula about why you didn’t call her, if you are lying to the bill collector about the payment being in the mail, if you are lying to the cashier that you don’t have enough money, if you are lying to the homeless person asking you for money on your way to the mall, guess what? Your baby girl/baby boy is internalizing ALL of that!
Stop lying in front of your children! Period!

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Parents as Role Models

Parents as Role Models

Being a role model is the most powerful form of educating.
Youngsters need good models more than they need critics.
It’s one of a parent’s greatest responsibilities and opportunities.
– John Wooden

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Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Children MUST have Responsibilities at home!

Parents: This is how we create productive adults!

You can’t get something for nothing!

My youngest daughter (she is the Cat in NieCat) shared a story with me last week that shocked me. She showed me a teenage girl who was very upset with her parents. You see her parents had given her a car. Her issue? the car they gave her was not the car she wanted. Here is the shocker, her parents purchased a LEXUS for her, her gratitude statement towards her parents was:  “that is not even the car I wanted!” Well, I guess when Cat  shared this story with me, she knew what I was going to say. How did this teenager become so ungrateful? Your parents buy you a car, a LEXUS no less, and the first thing that comes out of your mouth are words of dissatisfaction!!!!!! How does that happen? She was not born being ungrateful, something in her up bringing empowered her to feel as she does.

Here is the lesson for today. When we give our children things without reason or without them earning them, it gives our children a sense of entitlement. That may be cute at first when they are babies and toddlers  but as they become teenagers, this will be a serious challenge that the parents are going to have to deal with!

Children MUST earn their keep, said a very wise man who raised 5 children in a Brooklyn apartment in Coney Island! This Great man (My Dad) made sure these children earned everything they had, and I do mean everything. To get allowance we had to do work around the house. I had to iron his shirts and we took turns doing everyone’s laundry downstairs in the laundromat.  When we received good grades  we got paid for them. We had a contract that specified exactly what our responsibilities were, our rewards as well as our consequences.  Earning an A got you the BIG $$$, earning a B was also a good thing, a C earned you about a dollar and there was no way you could have brought a D or an F to 11H (that was the apartment number). The 5 of us are now grown and we all have children of our own. Believe it or not, for some of us, our children have children of their own.

I don’t know about my siblings  but NieCat (my girls),  understand that if they want something out of me they have to earn it. You have to earn your keep! Even my GrandHon (11 months) is learning that if she wants me to pick her up, she has to crawl towards me. Why you ask? They are only children you say! Why do you have to be so tough? You mention. Well, let us please remember that in this world, you have to earn your keep. You can’t get something for nothing, well, you can but it will probably not turn out good at the end. I wanted my girls to understand that hard work pays off. No one is going to give them a hand out! They must work, and the first job they had was keeping their room clean, that didn’t work very well, but at least they understood that in order to have privileges their room had to pass inspection! Those were the good all days!

Parents, please consider not giving your children EVERYTHING they want. Set goals, and once they achieve those goals, then, they can be rewarded with things.

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Five Rules to Succeed as a Parent!

Five Rules to Succeed as a Parent

APPLY THESE RULES TO YOUR PARENTING ARSENAL

Your word is your bond!

Being a Mother and an Educator has taught me a very valuable lesson. Well, I have learned many lessons, but I am  just going to share one today. In order to develop a strong relationship with our  children we MUST be parents of our word.
From the moment my girls were little I only told them our plans when I was 100% sure we were going to do it. hey knew we were going to the movies when I said, hey, let’s go to the movies.  If I said they were on punishment, the punishment was carried out. I always kept my word, one situation at a time.  This allowed them to become teenagers that knew that when MOM said it, she meant it.
It is important that parents keep their word as we must teach by example. This is what is going to create TRUST. A big word needed in order to foster a positive relationship between parent and and child.

Parenting Teenagers in 2013

If you have a teenager in 2013 consider listening as you go back to your teenage years. Think of  when you or a teenage friend of yours experienced that situation (this could be challenging as we didn’t have as many challenges as our children do today), and respond with the Wisdom the situation taught you without judging.