Parents, if after reading this sign, you feel as if you have a teenager who feels like this at home, I can help!!!!!
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Helping Navigate the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
July 15, 2013 in assistance, Children, consultation, daily word, empowering, Father, God, inspiration, Laugh, Life, mother, motherhood, support, Uncategorized
Tagged consequences, rules, Teenagers, teens
Teens live in a state of Drama!
The first blog I wrote I named it “Adults forgetting their teenage years.” I want to refer to this article as we explore the 4th lesson our Teens teach us. Often time we become successful adults and totally forget what we said, did, listened and experience when we were 13 – 19. Please think of those days as you read this lesson.
Many times our Teens come to us to tell us their saga, the first responses we murmur sound something like this: “that is nothing!” “don’t worry about it,” “that is nothing to worry about,” “leave those friends alone.” “you are better than him/her, forget them,” These and other responses we give our Teens really discourage them.
If you remember correctly part of being a Teen is feeling things intensely, in other words what you may seem like no big deal to you is hugely important to your Teen. If you continue disregarding their feelings, they will stop talking to you and that is the one thing you DO NOT want!
I often tell parents who I coach to remember that they MUST listen to their Teens challenges intensely. Remember that they are feeling their feelings, they are honoring their feelings and you MUST do the same. You should feel Blessed that your Teen is sharing with you, please do not destroy this trust!
How would you feel if you called your best friend to say you were loosing your home to foreclosure and your friend dismissed you and told you not to worry, then, your friend proceeds to tell you that your issue is silly and it will go away! How would that make you feel?
When your Teen comes to you with their challenges/problems/drama here are some suggestions:
1.Listen
2. Do not give advice.
3. Do not put their friends down.
4. Do not dismiss or minimize their problem!
5. Listen
6 Sympathize
7. Look at the situation as you were a teenager.
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Happy Navigating the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
Teenagers now a days look totally different than we did when we were teenagers (I was a teenager in the 80’s). My Father’s worth issues with me was the fact that I wanted to wear mini-skirts to school, I want to an ALL girl school for goodness sake!!!!! My experience as the Mom of a Teenager is totally different, I have to deal with tattoos, piercing, jeans with holes and other issues I never thought of wearing or doing to my body back in the days.
Sometimes our Teenagers bring friends over who are EXTREMELY interesting looking to say the least! As a parent, what you want to do is tell your child, “stop hanging out with that weird looking kid!” However, lesson number 3 teaches a different way of looking at it.
You need to approach every friend your teenage has with an open mind. Talk to them, ask questions, see where their head is. Open your mind and over look the green, purple, blue hear. Ignore the piercing in the eyebrow, nose, lip and the many, many, many tattles ALL over the place. Listen with your heart.
What are you listening for, is the kid well-mannered? Parents are always telling me that the Cat in NieCat is such a well mannered young lady, and inside I smile and I always say “Thank You GOD! It would be sad if a parent didn’t give her a chance because she has a piercing in her nose (be still my heart).
Listen to what your Teenager say about Her/His Friends. Remember, they consider their friends an extension of them. Thread lightly! Don’t be judgmental. Don’t criticize!!!!!!
If your inner self tells you to address an issue of drugs, skipping school, cursing in your house (a Teenager has to be extremely bold to do this), then, you MUST address this issue with your teenager. If you suspect drugs, you will need more than just a Life Coach, you will need therapy and counseling.
Keep in mind:
1. Being Honest and Candid with your Teenager is the way to go.
2. No judgment!
3 .Remember when you were a teenager!
4. Seek outside help if the situation is one you can’t handle and if there are drugs involved in the friendship.
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, http://www.niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
“Open Your Mind before You open your mouth!” 🙂
Happy Parenting,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
There are times in our lives that the experience of others grab you and does not let you go. As I write this I try to hold back my tears because when I think of the experience the Quintana-Cedeno family has endured is TOTALLY overwhelming to my heart! GOD doesn’t give you more than you can stand, and when you go through your life lessons, the BEST thing to do is to grow and become an agent of change. The Quintana-Cedeno family is an Exceptional example on how we can take a life tragedy and turn it into a Blessing to others. Below you have Kyan’s story. I have taken excerpts from his Facebook page and am sharing it with you. I hope that you can share his story with others so that we can save our Babies, our toddlers!
Saving Lives… One Little Swimmer at a Time.
June 9, 2013 marked our hearts forever. God called upon our beloved Kyan to become a little angel in heaven. It is because of this that Kyan’s Kause was created in order to prevent any other tragedies.
As we gather our thoughts for the night, we are so happy that a Facebook goal that we thought would take several weeks, was reached this evening. We wanted to honor our son by reaching 1000 Facebook members for Kyan’s Kause by his 3rd Birthday on June 30th. To our surprise, thanks to you and your love for our little boy, today June 19th, our precious baby’s Kause reached well over 1100 members and growing. Because of you, we continue to spread water safety awareness on behalf of our son. Please continue to fuel our drive to save other children by sharing our site. Throughout the next few days we will be posting Kyan’s Kause progress with its plans to circulate our vision throughout South Florida.
We are celebrating Kyan’s Life on his birthday weekend by bringing awareness to water safety the only way we know how, by having lots of fun. We will be celebrating with water slides, food, music, games, and activities for parents and kids of all ages. There will be plenty of vendors and items on display as we will be fundraising all for Kyan’s Kause. We are asking everyone to bring a new bathing suit for boys/girls in sizes 2-10 as Kyan’s birthday gift to be donated to the S.W.I.M.S. Foundation. We also wanted everyone to wear red as it is Kyan’s favorite color. Please make sure to bring your beach chairs and bathing suits to enjoy the day and celebrate with family and friends for a great Kause. We look forward to seeing all of you with us this weekend at Bridgepoint Preparatory, 12001 Sunset Drive, Miami, Florida 33183
Please support His Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kyans-Kause as well as the foundation, http://www.swimsfoundation.org.
Let’s keep our Babies/Toddlers Safe,
Coach Arthur
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
June 26, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, empowering, Father, help, inspiration, Life, Life Coach, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, motivation, Parenting, support, Uncategorized
Tagged babies, baby, death, drowning, parenting, parents, swimming, toddlers, water safety
Last week I took My Daughter, The Cat in NieCat to her Freshman College Orientation. There we were parents and children together. As I looked around, there was one thing “visibly” evident in this orientation. About 90% of these Freshmen were on their cellular devices, including Cat.
When they were talking about financial aid, I couldn’t take it anymore and I asked her to put her phone down and I swear she looked like I asked her to go to bed without dinner or walk home from the orientation.
This is the topic of our 2nd Lesson, according to http://www.webmd.com/parenting/teen the actual devices that keep our teens connected are the same devices that keep them away from us – their families. The article actually suggests that taking our teens’ electronic devices can be considered unkind. “Being networked with their friends is critical to most teens,” says Dr. Stuart Goldman, director of psychiatric education at Children’s Hospital in Boston.
As a Teen Life Coach, I agree with the article in the sense that if your teen is doing the right thing, i.e. school (their main responsibility), chores, being respectful, and most importantly not being withdrawn from the family, then, yes, the electronic devices should stay.
However, if your teen is not following through with your expectations, then, I suggest that taking away the cellular device, lap top, games and anything else they consider their life lines is perfectly acceptable.
Suggestions:
1. Have your teen pay for their cellular phone.
2. Phones must be turned off at least an hour before bed time.
3. No computer in the room.
4. Place parents control on the computers and laptops.
5. No phone usage during dinner time or family time.
6. No phone usage during the drive home from school.
The cellular phone is a battle that us teen parents should really not participate in unless is absolutely necessary. Unless of course our rules/regulations/expectations are not being met.
If you need guidance in traveling the teenage world, don’t hesitate to email me, niecatlifecoaching@yahoo.com for a FREE 30 minute Parent Life Coaching session.
Happy Navigating the teen world,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
We are all busy, and our jobs take us away from our families more than we care to share. We MUST make the decision to make our Children Our Priority when it comes to our time.
It is a challenge being a school administrator, a life coach and a Mom/Abuelita (GrandMom). Sometimes when I get home ALL I want to do is lay down and take a nap, however, I know that 1990 and 1994 seem like it was just yesterday and my girls are young women now. This all happened very quickly, but I am grateful that I h ad the Wisdom to make times for My Girls.
We MUST find time to spend with Our Children, what I do? Well, Honestly, it was not my idea, it just so happened this suggestion comes from the fact that My Girls ALWAYS followed me around when I got home. The Girls use to and still do lay in my bed as I am resting. We are talking, and sharing and I am resting! The BEST of both worlds.
Choose to find a way to spend time with Your Children regardless of what your day looks like.
Suggestion:
1. Have a game night.
2. Have a conversation hour while you cook, rest, use the bathroom (this happens to me ALL the time), or do your house chores.
3. Use driving time as sharing time.
The idea is to make your children KNOW that you really care and you will find time for Them!
Happy time sharing,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
As an Educator and a Life Coach it really makes me sad to hear parents speaking negatively to their children.
I Truly believe that as Parents we MUST give our children boosts of Self-Esteem on a daily basis.
We are Our Children’s first Cheerleaders. From the moment they are born, our job is to bestow Blessings upon Our Children! We MUST pray for them, pray for their steps to be guided. We MUST make sure we do not crush their dreams. Who are we to talk Our Children out of their dreams? GOD has clothed every dream with everything needed to be brought into fruition, that includes our Children’s dreams; don’t destroy them!
Tell your child:
How Proud you are!
How much you LOVE Her/Him!
How bright you see their future!
Find THREE good things to tell Your Child on a daily basis.
Hug your child at least once a day (I MUST work on this one).
Tell Your child you LOVE Him/Her Daily.
Look at your child eye to eye and smile!
Do not speak angry words. Wait until you feel less upset, then, speak!
It is your responsibility to fill Your Child’s bucket of self-esteem to the brim. If you need assistance generating more ideas on how to raise your child’s self-esteem, email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching session, niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com.
Happy Parenting
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
June 10, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, empowering, Father, God, help, inspiration, Life, mother, motherhood, motivation, support, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged children, Life Coach, Life coaching, parenthood, parenting, prayer, self-estem, self-improvement, wisdom
According to the Personal Parenting Coaching website, there are three C’s to Discipline.
According to Webster’s dictionary, the definition of discipline is: training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character. As much as we would prefer not to discipline our children, the TRUTH of the matter is that it is our Duty as Parents to Discipline our Children. If we CHOOSE not to Discipline them we are not in compliance with our Duties as parents. Disciplining our Children is not fun, I get it but if you want to have adults that are going to be good citizens and contributors to our Society as a whole Discipline is a MUST!
The personal Parenting Coaching website suggests the three C’s to discipline are:
Be CALM
Be CLEAR
Be CONFIDENT
As challenging as it is, when NieCat do not clean the kitchen after I ask them to do so, and I wake up in the morning with dishes in the sink; Yes, I MUST remain CALM! The idea here is to make sure your Children are well aware that you are NOT pleased about the behavior. Yelling and screaming does not allow you to think about the situation. Staying calm will allow you to think clearly, keep track of what you are thinking and most importantly, watch your words as you are expressing them.
Explain to Your Children why you are not pleased with their behavior. There is no need to attack your Child’s person. You are not pleased with the behavior. Concentrate on the behavior and you will have less to worry about when the entire situation is finished but not forgotten. Use CLEAR words to explain to your Child why the specific behavior was not pleasing to you. Explain CLEARLY what your expectations are and what would the consequences be if the behavior occurs again. Best bet, “keep it simple!”
You are the parent!
GOD Blessed you with this task!
You are the bread Winner!
You are the Boss in Your Home!
You pay the bills!
You make the rules and your rules MUST be followed!
You MUST make these ideas part of your consciousness! Make them into affirmations! This mind set allows you to have confidence in disciplining your Children!
If you want to learn how to discipline your children using the three “C’s,” email me for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching Session, http://www.niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com
Happy Disciplining,
Coach Arthur
Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
June 2, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, empowering, Father, help, Life, Life Coach, mother, motherhood, motivation, Parenting, support, Teenagers, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom
Tagged according to webster, discipline, good citizens, mental faculties, parent god, staying calm, webster dictionary
When we were growing up, our adult care takers felt that children should be seeing and not heard. Many of us grew up knowing that getting into a conversation when grown ups were talking was a recipe for disaster in our part. Giving our opinion when we were being reprimanded was a serious no-no in our days.
However, now in 2013 we know that allowing our Children to express themselves is part of the norm. Clearly there should be boundaries as our children interact with others as well as ourselves. Your Child should ALWAYS address you with RESPECT! With that said, the bottom line is that our Children have a purpose.
As a Life Coach I recommend my parent clients to find it within themselves to consider a couple of thoughts:
1. Your Child is here for a Reason. Your Child’s Life has a Purpose.
2. Your Child has a story to tell. No matter the situation, even if you know what your course of action is going to be, allow your Child the opportunity to share their story. This will allow you to see how much insight your Child has gained from the particular situation in question. This will also allow you to be able to reflect in the conversation and determine how you can do better handling the situation the next time.
3. Every Child has a dream in their Heart. Listen to their dream and NEVER destroy their idea. GOD has placed dreams within each one of us and the dream is equipped with everything needed to bring it into fruition. Dare to Believe Your Child’s dreams and aspiration for themselves and support them.
4. You Child’s voice matters! Listen! Listen to understand! Choose to understand, and then, to be understood (Steve Covey).
5. Your Child was Born for Greatness! You need to verbalize this Truth to your child as often as Possible. “Your Child was Born to have an IMPACT in this world.
If you want a game plan on how to put these strategies into practice, email me: niecatlifecoach@yahoo.com for a FREE 20 minute Life Coaching Session.
Happy Purposeful Parenting,
Coach Arthur, Certified Professional Life Coach
http://www.niecatlifecoaching.com
May 19, 2013 in assistance, Children, Coaching, consultation, empowering, Father, God, help, inspiration, Metaphysics, mother, motherhood, motivation, support, Truth, Uncategorized
Tagged Life, Life Coach, Life coaching, parent life coaching, parenthood, parenting, parents, teens, wisdom
Sweet smile on MIMIs face as you sleep the pain away,
Resting in God’s arms now, although in the ground your body lay.
He needed another angel in the Heavenly choir and that’s why you had to go.
As you promised, you are still with us watching over US.
I never would have imagined the end would be like this, me comforting you.
Holding your hand, telling you not to worry was not an easy thing for me to do.
And even in your weakest hour you tried to comfort me too, caressing my face, and calming my soul as only a mother can soothe.
You have always been there through the thick and the thin no matter what I’ve done, unconditionally your love never wavering.
When I told you of the mistakes I made and all the times people saw me fall , You simply nodded and gently replied ‘so have we all’.
The key to success is learning from the past; ensuring a brighter future is now the present task.
A pillar of strength even until the end, fighting all life’s battles, knowing it’s triumphantly you would win. Pushing me to be the best that you know I can be, reminding me to keep the faith and allow God to lead me.
Knowing it’s through Christ that I can do all things
And as He never makes a mistake I will come through victoriously.
I miss you more with each and every passing day MIMA, than these words could ever say.
The pain in my heart is from one unimaginable day
After I cried all that I could; my eyes still shed countless more tears, and when I try to sleep, I can’t because all I can think about and continue to ask my self is WHY and HOW COME you didn’t let me know you were about to leave ME!!?
My load feels so heavy I am not sure I will last.
Silly though I may be I am afraid of life now that you’re gone because I’ve always had a mother.
And MIMI, what about my son, brother, dad and lil baby?
I wish you could have stayed just a little while longer, there’s so much left to do. I wonder if I prayed hard enough and if so, maybe you would have stayed longer!
Finding relief in knowing I will see you again someday soon. Remembering all you taught me as my soul continue to grief. I will walk in the footsteps you have walked before me, seeing the path you walked led you, MIMI, straight into victory.
So as you sleep MIMI, in the cradle of the Lord,
I am reassured of GOD’s promises in His Holy Word.
I dream of the day when Heaven’s gates open to receive me and with your smiling face and loving eyes, we will be reunited with open arms you shall receive me with an ever lasting love.
” I love you for Always,
I Love you Forever,
As Long As I’m Living,
My Mimi You’ll BE!!”
Pre-K SPED 3 and 4 Year-old Teacher
Hialeah, Florida
May 14, 2013 in assistance, Coaching, consultation, empowering, God, help, inspiration, Life, Life Coaching, mother, motherhood, motivation, Spiritual, support, Truth, Uncategorized, wisdom
Tagged celebrating life, death, grief, letter to mother, letter to my death mother, Life, mothers' day, strategy to deal with grief
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