We as Parents are so involved in our lives that sometimes we loose our perspective. We feel that just because a situation is going a certain way with our children there is no solution, and that is not the case.
There are times that as parents we have to rely on someone on their outside to assist us in seeing things right! Keep in mind that Our minds, and thoughts determine our experiences!
Believe it or Not!
Consider this situation! By the way, I just made up these names as well as the situation itself, though I am quite sure you can see yourself or someone else in this story!
Tina is a single mother with a lot of family support, she has a son named Jaimito who she LOVES very much, however, she finds herself screaming at him ALL the time. After all, that is the type of environment she grew up in!
Tina solicits the assistance of a Life Coach in order to make lasting changes in her life, world and affairs. Here is the summary of her first session: The first thing Tina needs to do is declare what is her objective, her goal. According to Tina, she wants to stop yelling at Jaimito ALL the time. What Tina needs to do now with the support of her Life Coach, is to change her mind about the situation she finds herself in. Her Life Coach will assists her by asking her questions, these questions are geared to assist Tina in understanding why she yells. By listening to the answers to the Life Coach questions, Tina will be able to come to the realization of why she yells. The line of questioning will also allow the Life Coach to come up with a strategy (vision statement) to allow Tina to change her mind set by influencing her conscious and subconscious mind of the need to change her behavior. Tina goes home with a total mind shift and is this mind shift/change, that allows Tina to see things differently. Now when Jaimito does the same actions which triggered Tina to scream, Tina does not have the need to scream! She has changed her mind about her situation, therefore, her situation has changed!
Tina decided to hire a Life Coach as a strategy in order to stay focus on her goal, knowing that her Life Coach will always be there to empower, motivate, support her and hold her accountable for her actions towards her goal.
In continuing sessions Tina will solidify what she learned in her first session.